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monogodo 09-24-15 09:24 AM

Younger Brother Roommate - Final Update
 
I have a final update in the ongoing saga of my younger brother living with us.

His girlfriend came for a 3-week visit back in February. She was in the process of applying for Graduate School at Texas Tech, Texas Christian University, and the University of Idaho. Tech and TCU wanted her to audition in person (she's a concert violist). UofI was ok with a video audition. She ended up getting accepted at all three schools, but TCU made the best offer in the way of tuition/teaching assistant work/compensation. She moved here from Malta in August, staying with us for a couple of days, before moving into an apartment with 2 other Bulgarian women in Fort Worth (I know, 3 Bulgarian women in an apartment sounds like a XXX webcam setup). We (my wife and I) figured that, with his girlfriend in the area, maybe he'd be motivated to get a job, any job, not just something specific, and find a place for them to stay together.

A week or two ago he told me that he kinda has a job now. It's a long-term freelance project. A company in England is producing a comic book. They send him an outline (literally, it's the comic, but with blue outlines where the characters & objects go), and his job is to place the full-color characters & objects into each panel. He then sends it back, and someone else inserts the backgrounds prior to publication. It's an hourly job, so he just keeps track of the time he spends on it, and invoices them whenever he wants/needs to get paid. The pay isn't great, but it's enough that he and his girlfriend are getting a place together in Ft Worth. He'll be moving out October 3.

So what initially started out as a "can I stay with you for a couple of months until I find employment" turned into almost a full year.

As for all of the financial questions I'd previously asked, We've kinda resolved them. He and I had a talk, and I explained that we had an agreement that he'd contribute to the bills, and that he never asked for a total of what he owed, but that I also never volunteered the information to him. I explained that my wife and I discussed it, and decided that the money wasn't an issue. With his lack of income, we knew that when he did find a job and moved out, he'd need funds for deposits, etc. We would rather he saved his funds for that, than contribute to the bills. I even had figured out what the average monthly cost was to us of having him living with us, and it was right around $100/month. I told him that, and said we weren't concerned about it, that we'd rather he save for his future housing. We did ask if he could help out around the house more, which he agreed to. So things have been much better, and less stressful, than before. He told me yesterday that he wants to give us a large sum when he moves out, and will budget more as his income levels out. I told him that wasn't necessary, and offered an alternative: He paid our most recent electric bill, and will give us half of what he initially offered, and there's no need to pay any more than that. It ends up being much less than what he offered, and he doesn't feel like such a slacker. And I'm good with that.

We'll miss having his dog around, and we'll miss him feeding the cats in the evenings. But we'll be happy to get our spare room & second bathroom, and our privacy, back. And we'll be able to foster kittens from the no-kill shelter again.

RubeRad 09-24-15 10:12 AM


Originally Posted by monogodo (Post 18190643)
(I know, 3 Bulgarian women in an apartment sounds like a XXX webcam setup)

That's funny! Just what I was thinking...

no motor? 09-24-15 12:35 PM

It sounds like things worked out well for everyone. And I'm sure we're all going to be wondering about the 3 Bulgarian women instead of you and your brother now.

RubeRad 09-24-15 01:37 PM


Originally Posted by no motor? (Post 18191344)
It sounds like things worked out well for everyone. And I'm sure we're all going to be wondering about the 3 Bulgarian women instead of you and your brother now.

Totally! Webcam or it didn't happen...

Zedoo 09-24-15 07:18 PM


Originally Posted by monogodo (Post 18190643)
(I know, 3 Bulgarian women in an apartment

Bulgarian or Texas food?

Rowan 09-25-15 02:49 AM

This has turned into a misogynist thread. What a shame that you guys have shown so little respect for innocent women, and at least one who is so obviously musically talented, as well as for a nation.

mconlonx 09-25-15 08:30 AM


Originally Posted by Rowan (Post 18192795)
This has turned into a misogynist thread. What a shame that you guys have shown so little respect for innocent women, and at least one who is so obviously musically talented, as well as for a nation.

FWIW, I think I'd rather see a webcam of the 2nd bedroom once the brother is out and all the foster kitten shenanigans...

monogodo 09-25-15 08:42 AM


Originally Posted by Rowan (Post 18192795)
This has turned into a misogynist thread. What a shame that you guys have shown so little respect for innocent women, and at least one who is so obviously musically talented, as well as for a nation.


mi·sog·y·nist
noun
1.
a person who dislikes, despises, or is strongly prejudiced against women.
synonyms: woman-hater;

adjective
1.
relating to or characteristic of a misogynist.
I see nothing in any of the posts above that indicate a dislike or prejudice against women. Sexist &/or puerile, sure, but mysogynistic, no.


Originally Posted by mconlonx (Post 18193289)
FWIW, I think I'd rather see a webcam of the 2nd bedroom once the brother is out and all the foster kitten shenanigans...

I would love to have webcams set up through out the house to watch what the cats are up to throughout the day.

no motor? 09-25-15 11:02 AM


Originally Posted by Rowan (Post 18192795)
This has turned into a misogynist thread. What a shame that you guys have shown so little respect for innocent women, and at least one who is so obviously musically talented, as well as for a nation.


Originally Posted by monogodo (Post 18193319)
I see nothing in any of the posts above that indicate a dislike or prejudice against women. Sexist &/or puerile, sure, but mysogynistic, no.



I would love to have webcams set up through out the house to watch what the cats are up to throughout the day.

Perhaps this is another case where we are divided by a common language. Unlike when I shop at some of the grocery stores in my neighborhood and I'm a minority because I'm not an eastern European wearing an Addidas tracksuit, socks and sandals.

I'd like to see the foster kitten webcam too. I should be able to watch that and not want to adapt any more. The last cat I was going to foster has been with me almost 11 years now.

monogodo 09-25-15 04:13 PM


Originally Posted by no motor? (Post 18193781)
I'd like to see the foster kitten webcam too. I should be able to watch that and not want to adapt any more. The last cat I was going to foster has been with me almost 11 years now.

We successfully fostered a kitten about 18 months ago. It was a gorgeous all-black kitten. We decided to put fostering on hold for a bit, because we had adopted two cats, one of which had spent almost her entire life (11 months) in the shelter. She was very timid, and pretty much didn't know how to be a cat. The spare room was kinda her room, and she was very put out that she had to give it up to the foster kitten (we're required to keep any foster animals apart from ours, for health & safety reasons). We figured that we'd give her a chance to become more comfortable with us and the house before fostering more. Then my brother moved in. She's now to the point where she'll come up to me when I'm on the couch, and nudge me to pet her. But only with one hand. If I even hint that I'm going to bring a second hand in to pet her, or make a move to pick her up or hold her, she bolts. If she's into the petting, and can't see me bring the second hand in, then I can get away with using two hands, but if I try to move her, or hold her, she bolts.

RubenX 09-26-15 02:11 AM

TL;DR My brother is lazy and his girl is hot?

no motor? 09-26-15 08:34 AM


Originally Posted by RubenX (Post 18195364)
TL;DR My brother is lazy and his girl is hot?

Maybe, and was. Now we're onto cats.

no motor? 09-26-15 08:36 AM


Originally Posted by monogodo (Post 18194618)
We successfully fostered a kitten about 18 months ago. It was a gorgeous all-black kitten. We decided to put fostering on hold for a bit, because we had adopted two cats, one of which had spent almost her entire life (11 months) in the shelter. She was very timid, and pretty much didn't know how to be a cat. The spare room was kinda her room, and she was very put out that she had to give it up to the foster kitten (we're required to keep any foster animals apart from ours, for health & safety reasons). We figured that we'd give her a chance to become more comfortable with us and the house before fostering more. Then my brother moved in. She's now to the point where she'll come up to me when I'm on the couch, and nudge me to pet her. But only with one hand. If I even hint that I'm going to bring a second hand in to pet her, or make a move to pick her up or hold her, she bolts. If she's into the petting, and can't see me bring the second hand in, then I can get away with using two hands, but if I try to move her, or hold her, she bolts.

My feral is a lot like that with regards to petting. Two hands was kind of a big deal to her when she saw what I'd been doing for a while, and the first time for three hands made her look like she'd been visited by confuse-a-cat while enjoying the heck out of it.

monogodo 09-28-15 09:13 AM


Originally Posted by RubenX (Post 18195364)
TL;DR My brother is lazy and his girl is hot?

He's not lazy, just extremely particular about what job he wants to take. Much more picky that I would have been in his situation.

Hell, there's a trucking company that is hiring dock workers that would pay him more than he's getting on this freelance assignment, but it's physically demanding. Were I him, I'd have at least looked into it.

And yeah, his girlfriend is Eastern European Fashion Model hot.

monogodo 09-28-15 09:14 AM


Originally Posted by no motor? (Post 18195739)
My feral is a lot like that with regards to petting. Two hands was kind of a big deal to her when she saw what I'd been doing for a while, and the first time for three hands made her look like she'd been visited by confuse-a-cat while enjoying the heck out of it.

We have to take her to the vet this coming weekend. I'm not looking forward to the dirty looks she'll give me when we get back home. Also not looking forward to the blood she'll draw from me while trying to stuff her in her carrier.

no motor? 09-28-15 10:35 AM


Originally Posted by monogodo (Post 18200232)
We have to take her to the vet this coming weekend. I'm not looking forward to the dirty looks she'll give me when we get back home. Also not looking forward to the blood she'll draw from me while trying to stuff her in her carrier.

I've been doing subcutaneous fluids with mine for the past month or so, and I'm surprised at how well she tolerates it. I was worried I'd loose her due to not being able to give her fluids, but she's great once I catch her. I had another cat that I'd had since she was a kitten with Chronic Kidney Disease before her and she was really sweet until it was time for fluids. Catching her was an ordeal, and I had to restrain her while doing fluids to keep her still enough.

We were at the emergency vets over the 4th of July as the problems started, and I told them she was feral when I got her (or she got me) 10+ years ago. They wrote "fractious cat" on the top of her chart, and the tech laughed when they saw me cuddling all 6 1/2 pounds of her after walking in the room.


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