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I wish I could see my daughter today..... without BS.

Old 11-28-15, 10:34 AM
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I wish I could see my daughter today..... without BS.

While I was away in Arkansas, the ex loved to point out that I was away. But since I came back to Florida, she has become the master of creating excuses to NOT letting me see the kids. Most weekends I wake up, get dress and start driving the 200 mile trip. But 15 minutes later I just make a U-Turn because I don't want to deal with the my ex's BS. And I keep reading books and articles on the topic, looking at opinions on both sides...

"It's your choice not to be around, and be forgotten by the kids"

But is it? Is it really a choice? When you drive for hours just to be told your daughter is busy playing with her cousins... yet the other kids (from other fathers) are let out the door and paraded? Is just BS and attempts to provoke situations.



When one parent gets in the way of the parent-kid relationship of the other, there is no "choice". All you can do is fight it in court. And the court will either do nothing, or shutdown on parent (either the mom or the dad). Either way, courts don't fix the problem of kids not spending time with both parents as they should. The only ones winning are the lawyers who get paid.

The only real choices I have is to be obsessed about it, or to vent and let it go... at least until the kids grow old enough to get them driver licenses.
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Old 11-28-15, 05:49 PM
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Sorry to hear it ...
Is it not possible to set up a specific appointment time ??
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Old 11-28-15, 06:22 PM
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Move into the house next door to your daughter, move back to Arkansas, build a new life where you're at.... and learn to live with regrets and remorse. You know what your choices are. Pick one and do it the best you can.
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Old 11-28-15, 06:49 PM
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take her to court as a kid my dad was way way better parent then my mom.yet court gave mom custody .but today judges will give custudy to fathers just as much as mothers. if i had a kid nothing would stop me from being a full time dad. good luck dude
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Old 11-28-15, 08:38 PM
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I'm sorry to read about this Rube. I was a kid when my folks got divorced and was in the middle of some of that kind of grief. It wasn't fun as a kid, but now I'm glad I got to see both parents then.
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Old 11-29-15, 11:21 PM
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I'm hoping it all works out for you. It's so important for a kid to have time with both of their parents.
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Old 11-30-15, 09:50 PM
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I don't want this thread to turn ugly and have to be closed. Ruben's wife will not be posting here, so let's not even go there.

Thanks for your cooperation.
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Old 11-30-15, 10:25 PM
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Originally Posted by RubenX View Post
Rube is channeling Cat Stevens.

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Old 11-30-15, 11:35 PM
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Minus the hair.

Boy, Ruben, she sure grew up!
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Old 12-01-15, 08:31 AM
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You probably don't want to hear it - but YOU are making the wrong decisions! MHO.

YOU should do whatever is necessary to see your child! Turning around is the same as giving up!
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Old 12-01-15, 08:40 AM
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Are you up to date on the child support yet?
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