Go Back  Bike Forums > The Lounge > Foo
Reload this Page >

Random People Chatting You Up

Foo Off-Topic chit chat with no general subject.

Random People Chatting You Up

Old 04-06-19, 11:14 PM
  #1  
radroad
Senior Member
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Oct 2018
Posts: 387
Mentioned: 6 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 313 Post(s)
Liked 15 Times in 13 Posts
Random People Chatting You Up

I walk at least 45 minutes a day now, sometimes up to an hour and a half. I incorporate chores into these walks so I can feel like I'm making good use of my time (walking a few miles takes a lot longer than cycling or driving but is often faster than taking the bus).

I feel like I'm a lot more approachable wearing street clothes than when I've got my bicycle commuter gear on: helmet with mirror, reflective vest, etc. People used to just gawk to try to figure out what was going on. If I'm wearing regular street clothes: jeans, button down or gym style clothing, apparently people feel much more comfortable around me.

Of course, people actually have the time to talk to me when I'm walking as opposed to when I'm cycling. Anyway, I have to deal with the usual panhandlers and homeless and other street people who want change or a cig. But once I'm at the store or cafe, I usually encounter people who want to have a conversation. Sometimes this is someone in line, but it's also a lot of random people at the magazine rack, or in the cookie aisle or whatever.

Sometimes, they want to have an in-depth conversation. Other times, they seem mentally unstable. Occasionally, it's an attractive woman or at least a friendly middle aged lady. The people who bother me the most are the ones who want to have longer conversations. I try to be polite, but they'll just go on and on. It gets to be bothersome. I usually just try to give a short answer, but am too polite to just ignore them. It's clear some of these people have serious issues.

It's really too bad that there are so many people who are mentally unstable in our country and that there are so many lonely people that they'll just randomly talk to whoever. I feel bad for them even though they annoy the crap out of me sometimes. I live in a nicer neighborhood, but about 10 minutes out, walking out to the main drag to get to businesses, there are lots and lots of people who are in bad shape.

I could drive out to a nicer area for a walk but that generally takes around 40 minutes round trip by car and I could wrap up a short walk in the same amount of time. Doesn't seem like a good use of my time.
radroad is offline  
Old 04-07-19, 07:18 AM
  #2  
spinnaker
Every day a winding road
 
spinnaker's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2005
Location: Pittsburgh, PA
Posts: 6,503

Bikes: 2005 Cannondale SR500, 2008 Trek 7.3 FX, Jamis Aurora

Mentioned: 22 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 3357 Post(s)
Liked 36 Times in 28 Posts
Thread is misnamed. Should be Random people posting long post that no one is interested in.
spinnaker is offline  
Old 04-07-19, 07:27 AM
  #3  
Lemond1985
Sophomore Member
 
Lemond1985's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2019
Posts: 1,426
Mentioned: 10 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 794 Post(s)
Liked 150 Times in 108 Posts
Party-pooper! We could get an entire day's worth (or more) of flaming out from this thread, before the mods finally swoop down and lock it.

It's like I always say, "Don't beat a gift horse to death until all the eggs are hatched".
Lemond1985 is offline  
Old 04-07-19, 08:11 AM
  #4  
jbchybridrider 
Senior Member
 
jbchybridrider's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: adelaide, australia
Posts: 2,559
Mentioned: 3 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 136 Post(s)
Liked 26 Times in 15 Posts
It's the opposite for me. I walk for fitness around home but there's no one around to talk to. When riding my vintage bikes faster riders slow down on climbs to chat about my bike. When resting at the halfway turn around anyone wants a chat about my bike
jbchybridrider is offline  
Old 04-07-19, 08:16 AM
  #5  
skidder
Cereal Killer
 
Join Date: Sep 2012
Location: Orange County, California
Posts: 848

Bikes: Why yes, I do have a few! Thank you for asking!

Mentioned: 7 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 284 Post(s)
Liked 21 Times in 18 Posts
Wow, you're telling us there are people in your neighborhood who are not focused on their smartphone screens? That's amazing!

FWIW: You'll know who I am if I'm panhandling. I'm the one with the sign that says "Need money for booze and weed".
skidder is offline  
Old 04-07-19, 08:38 AM
  #6  
Lemond1985
Sophomore Member
 
Lemond1985's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2019
Posts: 1,426
Mentioned: 10 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 794 Post(s)
Liked 150 Times in 108 Posts
I live in an unfriendly small town where strangers never talk to each other. People have zero social skills here. You can go decades without talking to anyone you don't know, other than cashiers or wait staff. OP would love it here.

Last edited by Lemond1985; 04-07-19 at 08:41 AM.
Lemond1985 is offline  
Old 04-07-19, 01:12 PM
  #7  
Alfster 
long time visiter
 
Alfster's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2005
Location: in the Northern Tundra
Posts: 653

Bikes: 2005 Trek 6700 disc 2007 Orbea Onix 2009 Raleigh One Way

Mentioned: 2 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 32 Post(s)
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
My wife and I were just talking about this when we were walking in our downtown area and were approached by a homeless person who only want to talk. Loneliness has to be one of the worst parts of being homeless.
Alfster is offline  
Old 04-07-19, 01:27 PM
  #8  
Zinger
Trek 500 Kid
 
Zinger's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2013
Location: Spokane WA
Posts: 2,550

Bikes: '83 Trek 970 road --- '86 Trek 500 road

Mentioned: 8 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2172 Post(s)
Liked 11 Times in 10 Posts
Panhandlers you can usually ID as they approach you. Ask them for spare change before they have the chance to ask you and that will usually have them pass you by. Annoying drunks will usually leave you alone if you start preaching religion to them. Just ask them if they know their "savior, the lord Jesus Christ" and come up with the start of a little sermon to back that up with. That will usually make a very short audience of them.

Of course there's the risk you'll run into some real religionist and then you're in lengthy conversation trouble. I was with my late dad once ( he's a bit of an instigator) when that happened to me while we were waiting at a bus stop. Well my dad claimed to be a Buddhist which he didn't really know the first thing about, and engaged the old drunk in lengthy conversation feeding him completely full of crap about the Buddhist religion. Some of that concerned charity which my dad claimed to be sacrilegious or something like that in the Buddhist religion. When the old drunk tried to argue that point my dad said there were different sects and that he belonged to the "New Guinea" sect where it was supposed to be blasphemous to give away money. Finally our bus showed up and we got away without having given the old bum a dime. But he got to have a nonsensical conversation with my cutup of a dad anyway.
Zinger is offline  
Old 04-07-19, 07:01 PM
  #9  
Rollfast
What happened?
 
Rollfast's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2007
Location: Around here somewhere
Posts: 7,529

Bikes: 3 Rollfasts, 3 Schwinns, a Shelby and a Higgins Flightliner in a pear tree!

Mentioned: 46 Post(s)
Tagged: 1 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1545 Post(s)
Liked 52 Times in 48 Posts
I go grocery shopping to meet people. When half of the friends your age are dead, you're left with nice older ladies who are too smart than to follow you home.

But it's better than sitting all by yourself typing garbage to people you'll never meet.
__________________

Marcia Brady rode a ROLLFAST!
Rollfast is offline  
Old 04-08-19, 03:38 AM
  #10  
Lemond1985
Sophomore Member
 
Lemond1985's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2019
Posts: 1,426
Mentioned: 10 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 794 Post(s)
Liked 150 Times in 108 Posts
Lemond1985 is offline  
Old 04-08-19, 04:46 AM
  #11  
phile
Senior Member
 
phile's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2019
Location: netherlands
Posts: 211

Bikes: van moof dropdown, btwin triban 100

Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 81 Post(s)
Liked 9 Times in 5 Posts
so in short OP is suffering from some sort of mental/psychological issue which does not make him comfortable in regular human interactions. the OP's inability to see this issue makes him believe everyone enjoying human interaction has serious mental issues.
phile is offline  
Old 04-08-19, 07:29 AM
  #12  
ahsposo 
Thoroughbred Member
 
ahsposo's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2010
Location: Santa Anita
Posts: 7,087

Bikes: A Home Built All Rounder, Bianchi 928, Specialized Langster, Dahon Folder

Mentioned: 23 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 3033 Post(s)
Liked 97 Times in 67 Posts
Get off my lawn
ahsposo is offline  
Old 04-08-19, 07:49 AM
  #13  
wgscott
Occam's Rotor
 
wgscott's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: The Timbers of Fennario (CL77)
Posts: 4,888

Bikes: Steel

Mentioned: 61 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2366 Post(s)
Liked 213 Times in 132 Posts
Originally Posted by radroad View Post
I walk at least 45 minutes a day now, sometimes up to an hour and a half. I incorporate chores into these walks so I can feel like I'm making good use of my time (walking a few miles takes a lot longer than cycling or driving but is often faster than taking the bus).

I feel like I'm a lot more approachable wearing street clothes than when I've got my bicycle commuter gear on: helmet with mirror, reflective vest, etc. People used to just gawk to try to figure out what was going on. If I'm wearing regular street clothes: jeans, button down or gym style clothing, apparently people feel much more comfortable around me.

Of course, people actually have the time to talk to me when I'm walking as opposed to when I'm cycling. Anyway, I have to deal with the usual panhandlers and homeless and other street people who want change or a cig. But once I'm at the store or cafe, I usually encounter people who want to have a conversation. Sometimes this is someone in line, but it's also a lot of random people at the magazine rack, or in the cookie aisle or whatever.

Sometimes, they want to have an in-depth conversation. Other times, they seem mentally unstable. Occasionally, it's an attractive woman or at least a friendly middle aged lady. The people who bother me the most are the ones who want to have longer conversations. I try to be polite, but they'll just go on and on. It gets to be bothersome. I usually just try to give a short answer, but am too polite to just ignore them. It's clear some of these people have serious issues.

It's really too bad that there are so many people who are mentally unstable in our country and that there are so many lonely people that they'll just randomly talk to whoever. I feel bad for them even though they annoy the crap out of me sometimes. I live in a nicer neighborhood, but about 10 minutes out, walking out to the main drag to get to businesses, there are lots and lots of people who are in bad shape.

I could drive out to a nicer area for a walk but that generally takes around 40 minutes round trip by car and I could wrap up a short walk in the same amount of time. Doesn't seem like a good use of my time.
That's three hours of my life I will never get back.
wgscott is offline  
Old 04-08-19, 07:59 AM
  #14  
leob1
Senior Member
 
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Middle of the road, NJ
Posts: 2,966
Mentioned: 6 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 213 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 6 Times in 5 Posts
Want to get out of a conversation? Look at your watch and say "Gotta go, I'm late for my enema".
leob1 is offline  
Old 04-08-19, 08:29 AM
  #15  
bigbenaugust 
always rides with luggage
 
bigbenaugust's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2005
Location: KIGX
Posts: 2,104

Bikes: 2007 Trek SU100, 2009 Fantom CX, 2012 Fantom Cross Uno, Bakfiets

Mentioned: 3 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 249 Post(s)
Liked 3 Times in 3 Posts
I have had so many people hit me up while out cutting the grass.
__________________
--Ben
2006 Trek SU100, 2009 Motobecane Fantom CX, 2011 Motobecane Fantom Cross Uno, and a Bakfiets
Previously: 2000 Trek 4500 (2000-2003), 2003 Novara Randonee (2003-2006), 2003 Giant Rainier (2003-2008), 2005 Xootr Swift (2005-2007), 2007 Nashbar 1x9 (2007-2011), 2011 Windsor Shetland (2011-2014), 2008 Citizen Folder (2015)
Non-Bike hardware: MX Linux / BunsenLabs Linux / Raspbian / Mac OS 10.6 / Android 7
bigbenaugust is offline  
Old 04-08-19, 09:50 AM
  #16  
wgscott
Occam's Rotor
 
wgscott's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2013
Location: The Timbers of Fennario (CL77)
Posts: 4,888

Bikes: Steel

Mentioned: 61 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2366 Post(s)
Liked 213 Times in 132 Posts
Originally Posted by radroad View Post
Occasionally, it's an attractive woman
wgscott is offline  
Old 04-08-19, 10:09 AM
  #17  
Jadesfire 
Senior Member
 
Jadesfire's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2015
Posts: 1,306

Bikes: '88 Bianchi, '94ish Trek

Mentioned: 40 Post(s)
Tagged: 2 Thread(s)
Quoted: 893 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 2 Times in 1 Post
I certainly have a lot of days where I don't feel like talking to people, so I try to keep those types of interactions short. But just this morning coincidentally, I was reminded that sometimes it pays off to have an actual conversation with a stranger. Every morning I stop for coffee at the gas station on my way to work. Anytime between 5:45 and 6:45 in the morning there is always this one dude either sitting in his old Buick or loitering around right outside have a few morning cigarettes with his coffee. Friendly enough, and we exchange "Good mornings" on a regular basis. But I had a few minutes this morning and I guess he was feeling a little chatty because when I also offered, "How was your weekend?" he started talking about the planning the social club he started up nine years ago was doing for their monthly community outreach goals- they were starting to plan out the Mother's Day rose distribution for next month for mothers whose sons would be unable to be there for the day. Turns out he spent nine years and twenty days in jail, refuses to slide back into that life, and started this club to give other ex-cons a chance to give back to the community. Since he started this, they've had 36 members, and twenty-four are still active (meaning not back in jail). It might be a small effort, but it's certainly a positive one, and I would never have heard about it without those brief, sometimes mildly annoying, interactions in the morning.
__________________
Originally Posted by LAJ View Post
Everyone thinks they have had a long strange trip, until they look at other folks' journeys. Then they realize everyone has had a long strange trip, just using different modes of transportation.
"The mystery of life isn't a problem to solve, but a reality to experience."
Jadesfire is offline  
Old 04-08-19, 10:23 AM
  #18  
Seattle Forrest
Senior Member
 
Seattle Forrest's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2010
Location: Seattle, WA
Posts: 19,088
Mentioned: 43 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 7992 Post(s)
Liked 197 Times in 129 Posts
Originally Posted by radroad View Post
I could drive out to a nicer area for a walk but that generally takes around 40 minutes round trip by car and I could wrap up a short walk in the same amount of time. Doesn't seem like a good use of my time.
That's called hiking.
Seattle Forrest is offline  
Old 04-08-19, 11:16 AM
  #19  
no motor?
Senior Member
 
no motor?'s Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2005
Location: Chicagoland
Posts: 6,076

Bikes: Specialized Hardrock

Mentioned: 23 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 956 Post(s)
Liked 59 Times in 44 Posts
Originally Posted by ahsposo View Post
Get off my lawn
Same. I used to have more people approach me to talk or ask questions when I rode a motorcycle, usually after I'd put my gear back on during a hot day and wanted to get moving again. I seem to have a knack for attraction people that ask weird questions too, like the guy that woke me up while I was napping on a picnic table at a rest stop in the middle of nowhere and wanted to know where the bookstore was. Apparently I was the best person there to provide that information.
no motor? is offline  
Old 04-08-19, 12:00 PM
  #20  
I-Like-To-Bike
Been Around Awhile
 
I-Like-To-Bike's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Burlington Iowa
Posts: 27,702

Bikes: Vaterland and Ragazzi

Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 11 Post(s)
Liked 67 Times in 48 Posts
Originally Posted by radroad View Post
I feel like I'm a lot more approachable wearing street clothes than when I've got my bicycle commuter gear on: helmet with mirror, reflective vest, etc.
[skip]
I could drive out to a nicer area for a walk but that generally takes around 40 minutes round trip by car and I could wrap up a short walk in the same amount of time. Doesn't seem like a good use of my time.
Solution to your "problem" - Do not wear approachable street clothes when you go on your walks, instead wear your bicycle commuter gear: helmet with mirror, reflective vest, etc. and all those unworthy people will stop wasting your precious time.
I-Like-To-Bike is offline  
Old 04-10-19, 01:25 PM
  #21  
RubeRad
Keepin it Wheel
 
RubeRad's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2011
Location: San Diego
Posts: 8,562

Bikes: Surly CrossCheck, Moto Fantom29 ProSL hardtail

Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 13 Post(s)
Liked 56 Times in 43 Posts
When I want conversations with random strangers, I go to BF/Foo. At least there I get to pick and choose conversations that seem interesting to me.
RubeRad is offline  
Old 04-11-19, 01:53 AM
  #22  
canklecat
Me duelen las nalgas
 
canklecat's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: Texas
Posts: 9,082

Bikes: Centurion Ironman, Trek 5900, Univega Via Carisma, Globe Carmel

Mentioned: 157 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2774 Post(s)
Liked 142 Times in 116 Posts
Chattering with random people is part of what I enjoy about cycling. I've stopped and chattered with some homeless folks to hear their stories and occasionally share some food. And I've met some cycling buddies on the road while passing. We stayed in touch and occasionally ride together now.

I don't consider myself extroverted and do have to work a bit on being sociable. While I'm a little uncomfortable at parties and big shindigs, I'm usually comfortable one on one chattering with strangers. I can't remember many memorable parties, but I've had many memorable chats with strangers. Each such encounter encourages me to remain open to those possibilities.
canklecat is online now  
Old 04-11-19, 04:48 AM
  #23  
Wheelie Good
Wheelie Good
 
Wheelie Good's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2019
Location: Im in Mandurah region Western Australia 🇦🇺
Posts: 0

Bikes: Raleigh, Cyclops, Malvern Star, Sonycycle, Medallion, Family, ( all but first are vintage / antique

Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
ditch ...how 2

1. the shopper stopper.. "I dont mean to be rude but I need to go so I can enjoy this drink while its cold
2. the ask me for a smoke after polite chat... carry an empty packet and give apologies
3. Street stalker... wear a 😷 medical mask or ask them where they live lol 😂 joking

It doesnt matter what country you are in.. ( me ,Australia ) some people are freindly, lonely, or on medication that makes them rant . You have to be kind when you ditch em
But you can enjoy your inventive ideas lol 😂
Wheelie Good is offline  
Old 04-19-19, 02:15 AM
  #24  
radroad
Senior Member
Thread Starter
 
Join Date: Oct 2018
Posts: 387
Mentioned: 6 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 313 Post(s)
Liked 15 Times in 13 Posts
Yeah, that's what I try to do. I always try to be polite.
radroad is offline  
Old 04-27-19, 10:10 AM
  #25  
kellyon
Member
 
kellyon's Avatar
 
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 42
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 12 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 1 Time in 1 Post
I like chating with random strangers online mostly. That's convy. I don't have much time and probably I'm not a social or a party person and I rarely go to social events. My current SO I also met online on naughtydate.com and I would never have met her otherwise.

Last edited by kellyon; 04-30-19 at 12:18 AM.
kellyon is offline  

Thread Tools
Search this Thread

Contact Us - Archive - Advertising - Cookie Policy - Privacy Statement - Terms of Service

Copyright 2018 MH Sub I, LLC dba Internet Brands. All rights reserved. Use of this site indicates your consent to the Terms of Use.