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pricmm 01-14-06 01:53 PM

Relatives in India hurt me.
 
I met my relatives out of good interests in the vacation. I had gone abroad before that and returned out of homesickness and dislike of the new country.

My relatives in India made fun of me. It was so HURTING. They just started making verbal comments and taunts on me.

I am venting my feelings here. I feel like crying and am helpless. I do not know how to retort. However I know that each one of them have had tragedies in their own homes. For instance, a lady's son had committed suicide and some other had some other greater tragedies. My only thought at that time was "People living in glass houses should not throw stones." However these people did.

How do I teach them a lesson? Even though I have achieved a lot, they are making fun of me.

jyossarian 01-14-06 02:20 PM

Was it malicious or in fun? Success is the best revenge so be successful, then rub their faces in it.

KingTermite 01-14-06 02:53 PM

Why worry about it?

If people (even family) are hurtful then ignore them (never to see/talk again) and realize you are better for not being that way.

pricmm 01-14-06 03:38 PM

Hi guys,

Thanks for guiding me and letting me vent my frustrations. Of course, the hurt was intentional, but like one of you said, maybe it's better to ignore them.

Thanks.

Sharmila

Shifty 01-14-06 04:02 PM

It would reward them to see your hurt, try to avoid letting them see it. It must hurt very badly, you'll feel better soon. If you are staying there, try to use this as an example of how to be a better person, maybe it will impress them of what strength you have.

DannoXYZ 01-14-06 04:07 PM

There's a nursery-school rhyme I remember...

Stacey 01-14-06 04:09 PM

You can pick your friends, relatives you're stuck with. Why not try to open a private dialog with each of the offending parties. Let them know clearly what they said that hurt you and how you FELT by these words. Map the rest of the dialog by how they responded to your sharing of feelings.

Remember: Communication is the free sharing of clear thoughts, ideas or feelings between TWO people who are WILLING to engage in such activity.

tulip 01-14-06 04:24 PM

You might try talking with them like Stacey suggested. Sounds like a good plan. But if it doesn't work, don't go for revenge...what good will that do? Let it go and put your energy to better use.

HigherGround 01-14-06 05:03 PM


Originally Posted by pricmm
How do I teach them a lesson? Even though I have achieved a lot, they are making fun of me.

Velogirl basically beat me to it regarding the revenge angle. You can't choose what your relatives say, but you can choose how you react and what significance you attach to their comments. Are you going to channel your time and energy in a positive manner, or a negative one? Chances are that nothing constructive will result from being as rude or nasty as they are. Rather than taking their comments as being hurtful, perhaps they're indications of how shallow the people are, or how dissatisfied they are with their own lives. Don't let them bring you down too. I know that's often easier said than done, especially when someone else is looking at it without the emotional involvement. Good luck though.

Stacey 01-14-06 05:51 PM


Originally Posted by MERTON
just because they're his relatives doesn't mean he's stuck with them... he can always make a new family if he wants one.

Stuck with in a figurative sense mate. Kinda like stud poker... play 'em as yer dealt 'em. After my family abandoned me I created a new family from my friends. All is good

jeff williams 01-14-06 06:01 PM

People who are jerks to me, related or not -don't give a damn what they think.
Nice folks being critical...well, then I'll spend some time considering the conversation.

Platy 01-14-06 10:02 PM


Originally Posted by pricmm
...My relatives in India made fun of me. It was so HURTING. They just started making verbal comments and taunts on me...

The same thing happened when I visited some of my relatives. None of them are in India. I guess relatives are the same everywhere.




Originally Posted by pricmm
How do I teach them a lesson?

That is a thing that cannot be done.

pricmm 01-15-06 12:37 AM

Thanks mates! I really needed that.

Sharmila

neaolin 01-15-06 07:14 AM

It sounds like you are a bit sensitive.

I visit relatives in a 3rd world country and they not only make fun of me, they make fun of everyone. Are they singling you out, or do they just enjoy making fun of people?

slvoid 01-15-06 09:36 AM

I make fun of EVERYONE at work. Hell I make fun of my girlfriend all the time.
But I'm also open to people making fun of me at work. It goes both ways. But don't you ever ever load my bike on a pallet 20 ft up in the air ever again!

Platy 01-15-06 03:10 PM


Originally Posted by slvoid
I make fun of EVERYONE at work. Hell I make fun of my girlfriend all the time.
But I'm also open to people making fun of me at work. It goes both ways. But don't you ever ever load my bike on a pallet 20 ft up in the air ever again!

Are the pallets big enough to do that to a car? Do you know how to work one?

catatonic 01-15-06 07:50 PM

Yeah, there were some good ones at work...my favorite was mouting a piece of crystal clear, anti-reflective treated plexiglas in the open doorway to the (normally locked) office supplies storage. Never laughed harder.....until someone done it a year later, and it was my nose that got bloodied from dashing into it :(

....now I just find it funny as heck.

Stacey 01-15-06 08:02 PM

My favorite... Clear plastic wrap covering the toilet bowl. Pulled tight its nearly invisible. Priceless when the unobservant addresses it.

tulip 01-16-06 10:27 PM


Originally Posted by Stacey
My favorite... Clear plastic wrap covering the toilet bowl. Pulled tight its nearly invisible. Priceless when the unobservant addresses it.

It's gotta be under the sit-down seat. It is priceless, if a bit juvenile (but so much fun, unless it's you!)

Pheard 01-16-06 10:31 PM

Let them know you dislike them, if they actually love you they will care and change.


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