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Old 01-21-06, 12:27 PM
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I've been smoking, please help.

Well, after two years off the sticks I find myself hitting smokes at bars and looking in my wife's trash for left over Misty's: yack! Even at work I sneak out to the back and visit old friends to "settle my nerves" before important meetings.

I personally blame anxiety, stress at home, and increased responsibilities. But who am I kidding, it's my responsibility to keep the clean lifestyle. To think just a month ago I was the worst x-anti smoker around. I've even considered divorce because my wife still smokes in the house.

I am ashamed of my self.

Any words of support would help. I've increased roller time to 45min before work, I lift (MAX-OT) at night hoping it would chase these winter blues, but no luck...smoked another just now while the wife showered. Less i forget to mention I've gained 8 pounds since Thanksgiving.

This sucks,

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No disrespect, but smoking is an awful habit. Try replacing the cigs with something else. Maybe chewing gum or something. And your wife(no disrespect again) didnt help with her continuance of smoking. If you both quit together, the likelyhood of you lighting up again will decrease dramatically.
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Hang in there its tough to stop with another smoker in the house. I quit 12 years ago with my X girl friend still smoking in the house.

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Thats nasty. One cig can do alot of damage, and depending on the smoker, it takes around 20 years to reverse the effects of smoking.
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Best bet....get into something that gets your mind off of it altogether.

For me, video games was it...when in the middle of a good ol firefight in my favorite shooter, last thing I want is a ciggy.

Given I still accept the occaisional cigar, but those are usually quite far apart. Last time I smoked an actual cigarette was about 6years ago. Last time I had a clove cigarette was about 3, and the last cigar was just over a year ago (friend landed a hella sweet job, so we had some small cigars to celebrate).

Pretty much at this point, it's probably all in your mind. I found that certain beers will make you want a somke, if you used to smoke while drinking htem all the time...I stopped drinking those brands entirely. The urge to light up after sex....still hasn't went away, but I can deal with that in my own dorky way...give me a slim jim (yes the beef stick, those are my one addiction i can't seem to break!)
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The urge to light up after sex....still hasn't went away, but I can deal with that in my own dorky way...give me a slim jim (yes the beef stick, those are my one addiction i can't seem to break!)
A slim jim after sex? Now thats HOT!
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Old 01-21-06, 03:45 PM
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A slim jim after sex? Now thats HOT!
usually it's during sex that my slim jim makes an appearence. sorry! couldn't resist that joke....
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Ebb,

We don't see eye to eye on a lot of things, this happens on internet forums. But at this time my esteem for you has risen by 100 points. It takes a very big person to go public with their back sliding. I feel for you. Smoking is a tough habit to beat. I have a friend who had been clean for something like 15 years. Stress got very elevated and now she a two pack a dayer.

There's no 'magic bullet' for quitting. Some things that might help is to identify your trigger... What was it that prompted you to spark up again? Try changing your environment is: Stay out of the bar or instead of having a beer or a 7&7 have a Coke or Tonic Water. Last of all get a "go to person", just like AA. When you feel the urge to smoke call on a friend for help.

Remember, the urge WILL pass. You know that, you've been there before. Now you just need to own it.

Regardless, I'm just a PM away if you need to talk.

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It took me about 2 years of trying to finally quit. I went through the Zyban thing twice. I'd be OK for a while then go on a business trip and get stressed out and have a smoke. What finally worked was to find another thing to focus on. Everyday I would walk a couple of miles at lunch time and listen to music. If I couldn't do it at lunch, I'd walk after work. That burned off enough stress to get me over the first months so I could stay off. Eventually I started biking to work and that led to wasting countless hours reading Bikeforum. Everything has a downside.
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Thanks much folks, this may be the shot in the arm I needed for a new beginning come morning. We will see, I just need to remind myself how hard I worked to quit. It was no easy task after 20 years. I really hope this passes, I deserve better for myself. I bet if I ran stairs I'd have an instant reminder, I think that is what I will do first thing.
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Originally Posted by Ebbtide
I personally blame anxiety, stress at home, and increased responsibilities.
I have never understood why people use this excuse. "wow, i had a crap day, think ill stick numerous heavy metals and thousands of toxins into my system"

i tried a drag of a cigarette a few years ago, just to see what all the fuss was about, and i probably coughed for a sold hour. Dont know how you guys can do it.

edit: i should say though, i wish you all the best though. Actually, a friend of mine, and many of his friends, have read this one book, and its supposed to just magically make you quit smoking, it worked for him and all his friends. If you want me to find out the name of the book, i can ask him. He said it doesnt even go into stuff like how bad your lungs will look after X number of years of smoking, he just said theres something about the book that just makes you want to quit instantly.
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Originally Posted by free_pizza
i tried a drag of a cigarette a few years ago, just to see what all the fuss was about, and i probably coughed for a sold hour. Dont know how you guys can do it.
I just smell the smoke and feel like coughing for an hour, not sure how people do it either.
Just a thought but, perhaps when you have the urge, find something that makes you laugh? I've found humour to snap me out of bad moods or anything of the like. It may work for a desire also
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try these. ive heard these work for some people trying to quit smoking.
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I am now smoke free for 15 days! Quit Date: 01-06-06.

I've already saved an estimated $40 from not smoking. I never realized I was spending $80/month on slowly killing myself.

Just stop again... find something else to spend your money on
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Originally Posted by free_pizza
I have never understood why people use this excuse. "wow, i had a crap day, think ill stick numerous heavy metals and thousands of toxins into my system"

i tried a drag of a cigarette a few years ago, just to see what all the fuss was about, and i probably coughed for a sold hour. Dont know how you guys can do it.

edit: i should say though, i wish you all the best though. Actually, a friend of mine, and many of his friends, have read this one book, and its supposed to just magically make you quit smoking, it worked for him and all his friends. If you want me to find out the name of the book, i can ask him. He said it doesnt even go into stuff like how bad your lungs will look after X number of years of smoking, he just said theres something about the book that just makes you want to quit instantly.

Addiction works like this:

Often when I have a cigarette I say "WOW, that (the cigarette) completes me." Addiction is a tuff one, apparently. Thanks much.
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People who have never smoked or been addicted to something could never possibly understand it. You can be perfectly happy, not thinking even once about it for days or even weeks...then bam! The sudden need for a smoke hits you. I have been off them for 5 months. One hour you think you would never want to touch one again, the next you're reasoning with yourself why not to do it. You sometimes wonder how you will deal with certain situations without smoking, even though you have not touched one in months. You look at people standing around and wonder how do they not smoke, even though you don't either. The best thing you can do is tell yourself you won't smoke today. And just try to think that tomorrow.
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Run. I used to smoke, and it is a tough addiction to break, and the only thing that ever really helped me stay calm and get over the cravings was running. The best thing I've ever found, besides not smoking of course, is running. I've been quit for about 4 or 5 years now, cycling has replaced running as my exercise of choice, but I don't think I could've done it without thorough cardiovascular exercise,(when you can't breath, you don't crave a smoke so bad.) And you seriously need to have a talk with your wife about smoking in the house, it's both inconsiderate and disgusting. Even when I smoked, I didn't do it in the freakin' house.
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Find the reason that you are using a crutch to live your life and you will likely solve the puzzle of your smoking.
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Sorry to hear that! But, keep your head up and change some things about your life. Hopefully, you won't be changing your marriage, but if that's what'll make things better for you, proceed slowly. Work on your health and that'll do you wonders, physically and mentally

Kicking a bad habit is hard. I don't smoke, but have a bad habit of biting my nails.
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Smoking's a tough habit to quit. There's only one way to quit and it's to beat the craving everytime you have one. I know ex-smokers that still looked at me enviously as I lit up (when I still smoked) even after 20+ years of not smoking. You could try substituting one habit for another (cigs for gum), but I found it's just easier to say, "Well, I didn't smoke before I started smoking and I was fine then. I can do it again." Then kick something really hard so your toe hurts and it takes your mind off a cigarette.
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As Krispistofferson said, running can help. It worked for my neighbor.

What worked for my dad is viewing an autopsie on somebody who died of lung cancer. Go to your local morg, and they might be able to arange such a viewing for you.

I never smoked, so me giving you advise almost seems silly.
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Well, I ran stairs yesterday. I did more than usual but outside stressors are still getting the best of me. I smoked since, but this is a pretty difficult (but managable) time in my life. I'm optimistic that the changes I'm making will lead me to be smoke free within hours. Peace of mind, peace of body.

Spending time around children has helped. Not drinking or being around cigarettes helps too. After some study, I'm an opportunistic smoker right now.

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Actually, a friend of mine, and many of his friends, have read this one book, and its supposed to just magically make you quit smoking, it worked for him and all his friends. If you want me to find out the name of the book, i can ask him.
e-mailed my friend. This is the book.

The Easy way to stop smoking
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You did it before...you can do it again. Recommit! You know you can quit. This time get your wife to quit with you. It will be a lot easier for you if she quits as well. Then you won't have to get divorced . Remember why you quit in the first place. Besides...do you really want to stink for the rest of your life?
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