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Dating help

I haven't actually went on a date in years, i mostly went on like one night stand type things and then we were just friends. I met a girl, who i actually like, and she likes me as well. We are going on our first date tomorrow, and i am really crusty on making the first move. I know compliments are a big factor, but i know some of you guys/girls on here can help me out. When is the right moment an all for a relationship you want to work out. Also any other types are highly appreciated.
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Originally Posted by russiankdi
I haven't actually went on a date in years, i mostly went on like one night stand type things and then we were just friends. I met a girl, who i actually like, and she likes me as well. We are going on our first date tomorrow, and i am really crusty on making the first move. I know compliments are a big factor, but i know some of you guys/girls on here can help me out. When is the right moment an all for a relationship you want to work out. Also any other types are highly appreciated.
Are you asking when is the right time to kiss her?? I'm kinda confused on what your asking.

My boyfriend is SHY SHY. It seemed like it took him forever to kiss me. I had to be aggressive with him, heck I'm still that way now But he likes it.

Just be yourself, be comfortable with what is going on. As far as making the first move, I think you'll know when its right.
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Originally Posted by snowy
Are you asking when is the right time to kiss her?? I'm kinda confused on what your asking.

My boyfriend is SHY SHY. It seemed like it took him forever to kiss me. I had to be aggressive with him, heck I'm still that way now But he likes it.

Just be yourself, be comfortable with what is going on. As far as making the first move, I think you'll know when its right.
I am looking for the correct way to approach her to kiss her. I am shy as well when it comes to actually relationships, heh. Are there any signs of the correct moment?
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Originally Posted by russiankdi
I am looking for the correct way to approach her to kiss her. I am shy as well when it comes to actually relationships, heh. Are there any signs of the correct moment?
Well I'll give you an example of my first kiss with my boyfriend. Just so you know we have been dating 1 year and 8 months. We were at his house sitting on his couch all comfy, we were close to eachother, he kept leaning into me and I could tell he wanted to kiss, SO I JUST LEANED IN MORE He was nervous and I knew this. Once the kiss started it was alll good from there

If your making a move towards her for a kiss and she leans in FINISH IT!!! MAKE THE CONNECTION

Watch that movie with WILL SMITH I think its called "HATCH" or something like that.

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Hm...don't see that movie in the list for tomorrow. Anyways thanks for the great advice. Now is just the big question, when is the right moment. Like i don't want to rush it. I know we sit down watch the movie for a bit then i got the rest. It is just knowing the correct time.
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Originally Posted by russiankdi
I haven't actually went on a date in years, i mostly went on like one night stand type things and then we were just friends. I met a girl, who i actually like, and she likes me as well. We are going on our first date tomorrow, and i am really crusty on making the first move. I know compliments are a big factor, but i know some of you guys/girls on here can help me out. When is the right moment an all for a relationship you want to work out. Also any other types are highly appreciated.
Here are some pointers: be your self, don't ask too many questions, talk/learn about her. Try to find things you have in common, talk about funnythings to loosen the tension. Be very gentlemen like, ya know open doors and etc. Don't rush too much, some girls find it a turn off when a guy is all over her on the first date. An i hope this helps man see ya on yahoo.
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Just put Led Zeppelins Kashmir on and let nature take its course.
Thats what we did back in the day.
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Originally Posted by firstrax
Just put Led Zeppelins Kashmir on and let nature take its course.
Thats what we did back in the day.
She is into rap and techno music, and so am i.
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Originally Posted by Mr. Gear Jammer
Here are some pointers: be your self, don't ask too many questions, talk/learn about her. Try to find things you have in common, talk about funnythings to loosen the tension. Be very gentlemen like, ya know open doors and etc. Don't rush too much, some girls find it a turn off when a guy is all over her on the first date. An i hope this helps man see ya on yahoo.
Thanks for the tips.
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Heh.

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So here is how it is. I know about opening doors and such. I will open the door to the car and all. I know manners, ask her if she is hungry and all that. I buy the goodies. Just now its up to the correct moment, how do i tell?
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Nervous is okay - if she likes you too she'll think it's kinda cute. And hopefully she'll help you out with the timing. If you lean in & she backs up, or jumps up, or starts talking - back off. Otherwise, keep going.

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Nervous is okay - if she likes you too she'll think it's kinda cute. And hopefully she'll help you out with the timing. If you lean in & she backs up, or jumps up, or starts talking - back off. Otherwise, keep going.

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Speaking of SHY SHY--

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Best bet is to take it easy, take it slow. Nothing wrong with a mid-week date if the first one goes well.
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.......and when you do kiss her. Spank her.(just a little bit, not to hard) They like that.























(please DON'T actually do the above stated advice, It will end disaster)
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Originally Posted by Pwnt
.......and when you do kiss her. Spank her.(just a little bit, not to hard) They like that.























(please DON'T actually do the above stated advice, It will end disaster)
I know not to do that. I just want it all to go well. Thanks for the advice everyone, i am not nervous anymore. I will just let fate handle it. Now i just need to get some cash...
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Almost sounds like you're tryin' to rush a whole courtship into this first date. What's the rush?

Just hang out together a few times, see if you even enjoy each other's company. If that "chemistry" is there, you'll just be hangin' out and all of a sudden, you'll both know the moment. But you can't plan it. Otherwise, you'll come across lookin' like you're working from a checklist or something, an utter turnoff, instead of just lettin' the relationship grow at its own pace, an absolute turn-on.
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Originally Posted by firstrax
Just put Led Zeppelins Kashmir on and let nature take its course.
Thats what we did back in the day.
Make sure you're in a late 70's Trans-Am with the big flaming bird on the hood when you play that song as well!! haha!

Originally Posted by russiankdi
when is the right moment
If any of us really knew that or there was a formula for when then someone would be really rich because we all wish we knew exactly when the right time was! hehe!

Good luck man!
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Originally Posted by VegaVixen
Almost sounds like you're tryin' to rush a whole courtship into this first date. What's the rush?

Just hang out together a few times, see if you even enjoy each other's company. If that "chemistry" is there, you'll just be hangin' out and all of a sudden, you'll both know the moment. But you can't plan it. Otherwise, you'll come across lookin' like you're working from a checklist or something, an utter turnoff, instead of just lettin' the relationship grow at its own pace, an absolute turn-on.
+100!!! The best advice about women I ever got was always from women! I guess that's why 3 of my closest friends have been women...
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Originally Posted by VegaVixen
Almost sounds like you're tryin' to rush a whole courtship into this first date. What's the rush?

Just hang out together a few times, see if you even enjoy each other's company. If that "chemistry" is there, you'll just be hangin' out and all of a sudden, you'll both know the moment. But you can't plan it. Otherwise, you'll come across lookin' like you're working from a checklist or something, an utter turnoff, instead of just lettin' the relationship grow at its own pace, an absolute turn-on.
We have been talking for a while. Stayed up nights on the phone and such. I am not rushing anything, i just want to be prepared. She is very interested in me, and i am in her.
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Originally Posted by Pwnt
.......and when you do kiss her. Spank her.(just a little bit, not to hard) They like that.


(please DON'T actually do the above stated advice, It will end disaster)
Why not? Last time I tried that, it led to even more spanking and fuzzy handcuffs and dungeons and all sorts of fun!!!

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Usually you just want to wait just about a minute after you lick your eyebrows. That's just about the point they usually jump on my face.
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Usually you just want to wait just about a minute after you lick your eyebrows. That's just about the point they usually jump on my face.
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