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Old 10-26-07, 07:31 PM
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Time to splash water out of my bucket

I once had someone describe life to me as a bucket filled slowly day by day with a drip of water. The frequency of the drips depended on how stressful life became. The advice I received was to purposely spill some water over the side when life became to stressful so one could retain balance.

I'm going to spill some water.

Two years ago my beautiful 44 YO wife of 26 years was diagnosed with colorectal cancer. At the time it was stage three and required extensive surgery. This of course was followed up with radiation, chemo and mucho suffering. This was performed in the best facilities money could buy with the top doctors available.

Flash ahead two years...the cancer is back. In the lungs. Which means that it is metastatic. One tumor has been removed surgically the second cannot be without removing half of her lung. The only recourse is to undergo MORE aggressive Chemo treatments for six months then have half of her lung removed then six more months of treatments.

She has completed her first treatment and it was not fun...she only has to SUFFER through five more before surgery...S**T

I am a quiet personal person and I apologize for burdening you good people with this drama but for me just typing it out in a public forum has allowed me to "spill some water". If it wasn't for cycling becoming part of my therapy you Foo Rats would never have to hear my whining.

If there is one person who facilitated this "dumping" it was Cypress. He knew of my wife's condition and was kind enough to reach out to me and reminded me that however irreverant...the people in BF are all good. Thanks Cypress.

I know there are members of this forum that are experiencing similar suffering and to them I send out my love.
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Old 10-26-07, 07:39 PM
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Jeez dude, that's a situation no one should have to face. Wish your wife my best okay?
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Old 10-26-07, 07:58 PM
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Well consider us your pool. We can help take the excess drips. And we can hold a lot.

It seems to me that you are doing the best you can. You are seeing the best doctors, having the best treatment. Yes, she is suffering, but doing so because she knows that this is an effort to perhaps win this war. She is not giving up!! She is a fighter. And you are there for her. Make her feel comfortable, be confident for her. Let her know that you are okay as well. THAT is the best you can do for her.

But during this, and this is IMPORTANT.. You need to have some time for yourself. Time to do what you like to do. Read, ride, go work on the house, workout.....meditate.....WHATEVER.....Just take some time for yourself to re energize, rejuvinate. Become fresh again. You have to give your body and your mind some time to chill. You are under a tremendous amount of stress. And sometimes people don't stop to even notice.

But you have to. Because if you are torn down, she will see it. And that would tear her up.

So keep being strong, take time for you, and listen with your heart.....because we will be praying for you and her.

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Take it easy Greg. It all will, hopefully, work out for the best.
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Old 10-26-07, 08:03 PM
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oh, wow, greg. I'm so sorry to hear about this. I'm glad that you feel comfortable shedding a little stress on to the Foo-Gang. It is wonderful that you can do that. Feel free to shed as much as you need to. There are some wonderful, supportive, caring people in this silly little forum and that is a blessing. All my best to you and your wife.
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Old 10-26-07, 08:09 PM
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Originally Posted by Greg180 View Post
I once had someone describe life to me as a bucket filled slowly day by day with a drip of water. The frequency of the drips depended on how stressful life became. The advice I received was to purposely spill some water over the side when life became to stressful so one could retain balance.

I'm going to spill some water.

Two years ago my beautiful 44 YO wife of 26 years was diagnosed with colorectal cancer. At the time it was stage three and required extensive surgery. This of course was followed up with radiation, chemo and mucho suffering. This was performed in the best facilities money could buy with the top doctors available.

Flash ahead two years...the cancer is back. In the lungs. Which means that it is metastatic. One tumor has been removed surgically the second cannot be without removing half of her lung. The only recourse is to undergo MORE aggressive Chemo treatments for six months then have half of her lung removed then six more months of treatments.

She has completed her first treatment and it was not fun...she only has to SUFFER through five more before surgery...S**T

I am a quiet personal person and I apologize for burdening you good people with this drama but for me just typing it out in a public forum has allowed me to "spill some water". If it wasn't for cycling becoming part of my therapy you Foo Rats would never have to hear my whining.

If there is one person who facilitated this "dumping" it was Cypress. He knew of my wife's condition and was kind enough to reach out to me and reminded me that however irreverant...the people in BF are all good. Thanks Cypress.

I know there are members of this forum that are experiencing similar suffering and to them I send out my love.
Wow, i wish you and your wife the best with this. Yeah many people spill their venting or feelings here i am on of them.
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Old 10-27-07, 01:13 AM
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Oh, Greg -- so sorry to hear that . Feel free to spill as much water here as you want. You and your wife are in my thoughts.
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Greg180, that is horrible news. I am so sorry to hear it.

I just said a prayer for you and your wife. I really hope things turn out okay and that you can keep your head level. Hopefully everything turns out okay.
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Old 10-27-07, 03:25 AM
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You are in my thoughts and prayers. Stay strong.
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You know those situations that make you step back and wonder "wow, if there is a god, why is it doing this to this person? Out of everyone I know, why them?" This is definitely one of those times. Greg is amazing. One of his outlooks on life is "If you can help someone do what they couldn't do for themselves, DO IT". The catch is, Greg actually lives that way!

After hanging out with him, KillerPenguin and I started our "long" drive back to NY. Somewhere in there, I blurt out "if I ever grow up, I want to be just like, Greg". KP and I declared Greg to be one of - if not the - coolest people either of us had ever met. That's two 21-ish year old guys gushing over another guy - and meaning it.

If you ever have the chance to meet up with, Greg... Don't pass it up. I thought people like this only existed in movies.
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My mother had colorectal cancer but it was too far along to stop. I learned along the way that keeping the pain and sorrow bottled up is not a good thing to do as it took me about 2 years to come to terms with her loss as I moved to being mad to acceptance that she was no longer in pain and in a much better place. Stay strong, as she will need your strength along the way.

I will keep you and your family in my prayers.
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Greg, our thoughts and prayers are with you. If you need anything, just reach out....
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Originally Posted by Cypress View Post
You know those situations that make you step back and wonder "wow, if there is a god, why is it doing this to this person? Out of everyone I know, why them?" This is definitely one of those times. Greg is amazing. One of his outlooks on life is "If you can help someone do what they couldn't do for themselves, DO IT". The catch is, Greg actually lives that way!

After hanging out with him, KillerPenguin and I started our "long" drive back to NY. Somewhere in there, I blurt out "if I ever grow up, I want to be just like, Greg". KP and I declared Greg to be one of - if not the - coolest people either of us had ever met. That's two 21-ish year old guys gushing over another guy - and meaning it.

If you ever have the chance to meet up with, Greg... Don't pass it up. I thought people like this only existed in movies.
I beg to differ my young friend, it was I who came away from the experience more enriched. Thank you for the kind words though...

And thank you Foo for the forum...
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Greg, I will your wife and you in my thoughts and what passes as my prayers these days.
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I might not have a lot of pull with the Big Guy, but I am praying for you both too. Oh yea, tommorw I am an usher at Church so maybe just a little more pull.
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I'm praying as well. I may not be the most religious of types, but prayer can't hurt.
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Greg,

Having lived the day to day struggle that is having a loved one fighting cancer, I can feel for you. You can throw as much water my way as you want brother. I will be praying for you and your family. Stay strong.

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I beg to differ my young friend, it was I who came away from the experience more enriched. Thank you for the kind words though...

And thank you Foo for the forum...
Gosh, there are some great people on here . Still thinking and praying, Greg.
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Good luck Greg.

My wife has cancer too and we're currently undergoing treatment. It's tough, but maybe even tougher is the nature of the beast. Even at times when it looks like it may be beat, it can come back.

I've lost a number of young family members and a good friend to the disease, but there are others I know who have managed to beat it.

I think it's the way one lives a life that matters and although I know life is a terminal condition, it's never easy to face a possibility of life ending, no matter how long or well lived a life has been.

Emotion is a hard and funny thing when it rears up unexpectedly. I know I've had my moments in the last few weeks and I'm sure they're going to well up again when I'm not expecting it but be sure that we all here are thinking of you and willing to give you what support we can. Don't be afraid of "losin' it" once in a while. That's being a human.

Good luck and God bless.
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Greg,

We are here for you. If you are ever in western NH, let me know. I'd like to buy you a beer.

Hang in there pal.

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