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Old 01-21-09, 02:21 PM
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Sorry to hear this, sub. All the best to you, your family and your dad.
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Old 01-21-09, 02:37 PM
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Still trying to tie up some loose ends here before I leave.
Thanks all.

From a conversation with my mother, the doctors were glad they found it when they did. It's relatively small. They think they can get it.

As a side note:
My wife and I had a conversation about our parent's death a few days ago. Just something that came up after a funeral. We both know it's inevitable. Just hard to grasp.
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Old 01-21-09, 02:40 PM
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No other way to say it......that just sucks!

Good luck to the dad man....hope its not too bad and beatable.
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Hang in Sub- here's hoping your dad can beat this.
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so sorry SS. pls let us know how things are going.
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Old 01-21-09, 06:40 PM
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Just got home. He was in good spirits. I think everything will be OK. I have a good feeling.
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Old 01-21-09, 06:41 PM
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Oh wow, sorry to hear that Sub

Best wishes for a speedy recovery
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Old 01-21-09, 07:58 PM
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I hope it everything turns out for the best, Sub.
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Old 01-22-09, 01:33 AM
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Best wishes substructure. The "up" side to all this is that a lot of progress has been made in fighting cancer. Plenty of people are diagnosed, receive treatment, and go on to continue living healthy and happy lives. If they found it early, and it sounds like they did, that improves the odds in the patient's favor. My mom has beaten two separate kinds of cancer, so it can be done. Try to stay positive (easier said than done, I know). Good luck, and keep us posted.
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Old 01-22-09, 01:37 AM
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Geez, very sorry to hear it, ss. Best of luck to you, your family, and especially your father.
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Sorry to hear the news, substructure. Having been through that myself (bone, not liver), I know it's not a picnic, but I also know that it can be beaten. Stay strong.
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Sorry to hear that Sub. From one of your posts it sounds like the Pro's are pleased they found it this early.

Most certainly your Dad, and your family are in our prayers on this end.
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So sorry Sub. You, your Dad, and your family are in my prayers.
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Old 01-22-09, 02:04 PM
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Wow. I don't visit FOO much. Glad I found this. Sorry man. You've been going through it this year. More prayers your way. Prayers for healing.
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Old 01-22-09, 04:52 PM
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I'm very sorry to hear about this, but glad to hear that the initial shock is giving way to reason for optimism. My heart goes out to all of you.

Now for some unasked-for advice from one who has seen this cancer thing from up close (loved ones, not me). Ready? Your Dad, or someone close to him, has to be prepared to be the "general contractor" in this process. He will have multiple doctors involved - perhaps including oncologists, surgeons, radiologists, and Lord only knows who else. I will guarantee you that there will be times when the proverbial right hand and left hand do not even know each other exist, much less what each other is doing. Your Dad, or you, or somebody, has to be prepared to keep up with all of what is going on so that all the docs are on the same page.

In saying this, I am assuming your Dad's doctors are first-rate, and I am not slamming them or their staffs. But there are way too many cancer patients these days, and these docs will be seeing many patients every single day, and it is simply not reasonable to expect that communications between the docs will be perfect. Stuff can and does slip through the cracks. Your Dad or someone he can trust needs to be prepared to make sure that it isn't his case or data or whatever that is doing the slipping.

I also strongly suggest making sure that someone other than your Dad is with him at all of the doctor appointments, at least for now. That person should be taking notes and asking questions. Ideally, it is someone who can put their emotions aside during the appointments and be the "business-like one." Your Dad's head is going to go all over the place - it's normal - and he will not hear or remember everything. I don't cafre how rational or strong-willed he is, he just won't. Having a second person there who is focused on getting the info and asking the follow-up questions will be very helpful. It will also clear up a lot of misunderstandings before they become a big deal.

Trust me on these things. This advice is based on hard-won personal experience.

In the meantime, go give your Dad a big hug, even if you have never given him a hug before. Especially if you ahve never given him a hug before.
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I've lost 3 of my parents generation to cancer (father, aunt and stepfather) and they ALL suffered horribly uncomfortable deaths after receiving mainstream cancer treatment, SO, my opinion might be biased. Anyway, I think mainstream cancer treatment in faith healing at best and quackery at worst.

If you just take a cold hard look at the unbiased statistics the odds are not good. Its MUCH worse than 50/50 so don't be deluded.

If someone is going to die then they're going to die and the last thing they need are the HORRIBLE effects of chemotherapy or radiotherapy. They are truly awful.

Have a look at alternatives first.

See, http://cancerfungus.com/simoncini-cancer-fungus.php

http://www.westonaprice.org/moderndiseases/index.html

http://search.mercola.com/Results.as...ancer&k=cancer

What your father may need to heal himself naturally may be as simple as vit D. Serious!

Look it up.

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So sorry, hope the treatment is effective and as painless as possible.

(((hugs)))
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I think mainstream cancer treatment in faith healing at best and quackery at worst.
While I agree that we generally don't know our asses from a hole in the ground when it comes to things cancer, it's not as bad as you say. For example, my mother had a very aggressive form of cancer, and upon diagnosis, was given six months to live. Thanks in no small part to the treatment she received, she lived for another seven years. I'm not going to pretend like it was seven years of sunshine and roses, but there were several extended periods when she was happy, cancer-free, and not being treated.

Cancer is an awful way to die (as you know, and I'm very sorry for your losses), but it's an awful way to die anyway, whether you've had your life extended by treatment or not. Of course, I believe it should be up to the patient what they want to go through.
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Sorry to hear of your experiences, AnthonyG... for me, the cancer treatment was not fun, but was extremely effective. By the time they amputated, which was after only 2-3 months of chemotherapy, the tumor had shrunk down to a fraction of its original size. All in all, I was in the hospital for 6 months and it's been fine since (touch wood). I began treatment 20 years ago this October.

Everyone's experience is going to be different, and some people respond better to treatment than others -- but for me, cancer treatment definitely worked (and that was 20 years ago!), and I really do think it's the best way to attack the disease.
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Originally Posted by substructure View Post
Still trying to tie up some loose ends here before I leave.
Thanks all.

From a conversation with my mother, the doctors were glad they found it when they did. It's relatively small. They think they can get it.

As a side note:
My wife and I had a conversation about our parent's death a few days ago. Just something that came up after a funeral. We both know it's inevitable. Just hard to grasp.
I think the doctors would be taking a very high risk to say this and not believe it. I feel good about your word, sub. My prayers are with you.

As a member of a high risk cancer family (with the exception of my dad (stroke) every one of my family members who have passed, passed from cancer), I'm here if you or your wife ever need to talk via phone. PM me if you need to.
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Good to hear it's treatable subby. Hope the doctors can get it. I did pray for you the other day, maybe it actually worked.
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sending good wishes to your dad!
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Originally Posted by substructure View Post
Just found out.
So sorry to hear that. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Think GOOD THOUGHTS!!!
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