Go Back  Bike Forums > The Lounge > Foo
Reload this Page >

Contribute or not...What would you do?

Notices
Foo Off-Topic chit chat with no general subject.

Contribute or not...What would you do?

Old 06-01-09, 10:31 AM
  #1  
<3 2 Ride 
Found my way
Thread Starter
 
<3 2 Ride's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2008
Location: On the shore
Posts: 1,013

Bikes: Salsa Campeon, Specialized Crux, Bottechia Mixte

Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Contribute or not...What would you do?

This year has been a rocky year for me. I teach at two schools and the principal at the second school does not care for me or my teaching style. She has made this year very difficult and put my career in jeopardy. I worked very hard and overcame everything that she threw at me. I will be teaching at one school next year (not this one, thank goodness). The difficult principal has recently announced her retirement. Being that this is my first year in the district, I am not inclined to contribute to the staff gift nor attend her retirement party. Given that we have had such a difficult year, I feel even stronger about not contributing. What would you do?
__________________
When the power of love overcomes the love of power, the world will know peace. - Jimi Hendrix

Life is what happens to you while you are busy making other plans. - John Lennon

<3 2 Ride is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:34 AM
  #2  
Denny Koll
Senior Member
 
Denny Koll's Avatar
 
Join Date: Mar 2006
Posts: 853
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
I wouldn't contribute...or if I did I would just give no more 50 cents.
Denny Koll is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:34 AM
  #3  
HardyWeinberg
GATC
 
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: south Puget Sound
Posts: 8,698
Mentioned: 28 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 460 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 13 Times in 13 Posts
Heck no.

Can you write a personal message on her card though? 'can't say enough about working with you' or something?
HardyWeinberg is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:34 AM
  #4  
coasting 
Still can't climb
 
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Limey in Taiwan
Posts: 23,024
Mentioned: 23 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 10 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
aren't these workplace love-ins always anonimous? who's going to know you didn't drop your dime in the collection?
coasting is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:48 AM
  #5  
pgoat
Batw Griekgriek
 
pgoat's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: NYC - for the moment...
Posts: 2,908

Bikes: 1985 Trek 500, 1986 Trek 500 Tri Series, 2005 Cannondale R1000

Mentioned: 2 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 22 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Hmm...

tough call. Personally, I would

-not attend the function if you feel that uncomfortable - that much is certain

-contribute the minimum $ amount towards her gift, if you want

-send a short card of your own expressing something along the lines that you wished your interactions could have been more positive and wish her well in her retirement....this may sound crazy but it might be very cathartic for you. For someone to be that at odds with someone as sweet as you, she must be a bitter old battleaxe and then some, but hey - even battleaxes need love sometimes. We'll all be retiring someday; why not end it on a good note between you. If she is unreceptive, at least you did the right thing, and it's her loss.
__________________
Originally Posted by jsharr View Post
People whose sig line does not include a jsharr quote annoy me.
pgoat is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:50 AM
  #6  
coasting 
Still can't climb
 
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Limey in Taiwan
Posts: 23,024
Mentioned: 23 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 10 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
what a load of hooey. send her a box of monkey poo
coasting is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:51 AM
  #7  
pgoat
Batw Griekgriek
 
pgoat's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: NYC - for the moment...
Posts: 2,908

Bikes: 1985 Trek 500, 1986 Trek 500 Tri Series, 2005 Cannondale R1000

Mentioned: 2 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 22 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Originally Posted by coasting View Post
what a load of hooey. send her a box of monkey poo
Hey at least I tried....it's your loss

ps, if you go with monkey poo, attend her party and fling it, preferably whilst screeching with bared teeth - makes more of a statement than just sending it
__________________
Originally Posted by jsharr View Post
People whose sig line does not include a jsharr quote annoy me.
pgoat is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:51 AM
  #8  
chipcom 
Infamous Member
 
chipcom's Avatar
 
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Ohio
Posts: 24,365

Bikes: Surly Big Dummy, Fuji World, 80ish Bianchi

Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Originally Posted by <3 2 Ride View Post
This year has been a rocky year for me. I teach at two schools and the principal at the second school does not care for me or my teaching style. She has made this year very difficult and put my career in jeopardy. I worked very hard and overcame everything that she threw at me. I will be teaching at one school next year (not this one, thank goodness). The difficult principal has recently announced her retirement. Being that this is my first year in the district, I am not inclined to contribute to the staff gift nor attend her retirement party. Given that we have had such a difficult year, I feel even stronger about not contributing. What would you do?
HTFU. contribute a nominal amount, go to the party and be gracious, my dear. You are the future, she is the past...and more importantly, you are better than her. Set the bar, don't lower it. ;0
__________________
"Let us hope our weapons are never needed --but do not forget what the common people knew when they demanded the Bill of Rights: An armed citizenry is the first defense, the best defense, and the final defense against tyranny. If guns are outlawed, only the government will have guns. Only the police, the secret police, the military, the hired servants of our rulers. Only the government -- and a few outlaws. I intend to be among the outlaws" - Edward Abbey
chipcom is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:52 AM
  #9  
edbikebabe
runnin' down a dream
 
edbikebabe's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2006
Location: Somewhere out there
Posts: 2,767

Bikes: Turner Flux, Orbea Onix Dama.

Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Originally Posted by chipcom View Post
htfu. Contribute a nominal amount, go to the party and be gracious, my dear. You are the future, she is the past...and more importantly, you are better than her. Set the bar, don't lower it. ;0
+1
edbikebabe is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:53 AM
  #10  
coasting 
Still can't climb
 
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Limey in Taiwan
Posts: 23,024
Mentioned: 23 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 10 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Originally Posted by coasting View Post
what a load of hooey. send her a box of monkey poo
Originally Posted by chipcom View Post
HTFU. contribute a nominal amount, go to the party and be gracious, my dear. You are the future, she is the past...and more importantly, you are better than her. Set the bar, don't lower it. ;0

what a contrast. question is which response shows more class?
coasting is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:54 AM
  #11  
USAZorro
Seor Member
 
USAZorro's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Hardy, VA
Posts: 16,266

Bikes: Mostly English - predominantly Raleighs

Mentioned: 48 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 715 Post(s)
Liked 25 Times in 20 Posts
I'm liking pgoat's advice. Do like everyone should - $1.00 contribution for every year you worked with her.
__________________
In search of what to search for.
USAZorro is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:54 AM
  #12  
trsidn 
Jeff Vader
 
trsidn's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2007
Location: Putting the 'fun' in dysfunctional
Posts: 381

Bikes: Cannondale CAAD8, Trek SU200

Mentioned: 3 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1044 Post(s)
Liked 10 Times in 10 Posts
Originally Posted by chipcom View Post
htfu. Contribute a nominal amount, go to the party and be gracious, my dear. You are the future, she is the past...and more importantly, you are better than her. Set the bar, don't lower it. ;0
+2
__________________
We are all a litter of piglets in the barn fire of life - Piney McKnuckle
trsidn is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:55 AM
  #13  
pgoat
Batw Griekgriek
 
pgoat's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: NYC - for the moment...
Posts: 2,908

Bikes: 1985 Trek 500, 1986 Trek 500 Tri Series, 2005 Cannondale R1000

Mentioned: 2 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 22 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Originally Posted by coasting View Post
what a contrast. question is which response shows more class?
The high road is admirable.




Still, Monkey poo is monkey poo, dagnabit!
__________________
Originally Posted by jsharr View Post
People whose sig line does not include a jsharr quote annoy me.
pgoat is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:56 AM
  #14  
wolfpack 
Rawwrrrrrrrrr!
 
wolfpack's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2006
Location: Clayton, NC
Posts: 2,729

Bikes: 2009 Specialized Ruby Sworks SL w/SRAM Red; 2006 Fuji Team RC; 2008 Felt F1x; 1980's Lotus Excelle; Mangusta FG/SS; Rossin (yet to be built up)

Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Originally Posted by chipcom View Post
htfu. Contribute a nominal amount, go to the party and be gracious, my dear. You are the future, she is the past...and more importantly, you are better than her. Set the bar, don't lower it. ;0
+3
__________________
wolfpackcycles
skiffrun: Enjoy the ride. Ride for the enjoyment.
wolfpack is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:58 AM
  #15  
MTBLover
But on the road more
 
MTBLover's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jun 2006
Posts: 864

Bikes: Bianchi Volpe '07

Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Originally Posted by chipcom View Post
htfu. Contribute a nominal amount, go to the party and be gracious, my dear. You are the future, she is the past...and more importantly, you are better than her. Set the bar, don't lower it. ;0
+4
MTBLover is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 10:59 AM
  #16  
thomson
Senior Member
 
thomson's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2003
Posts: 3,333
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Increasingly in the business world, it is all about contacts. You will foster relationships with all the other attendees. If it eases your mind any, the Principal will feel worse that you took the high road than if you boycotted the event.
__________________
thomson is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 11:00 AM
  #17  
ModoVincere
Riding Heaven's Highways on the grand tour
 
ModoVincere's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Posts: 1,675
Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Hate to say it, but I agree with Chip.
__________________
1 bronze, 0 silver, 1 gold
ModoVincere is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 11:03 AM
  #18  
thomson
Senior Member
 
thomson's Avatar
 
Join Date: Dec 2003
Posts: 3,333
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
What would you advise your kids to do if given a similar situation? I am guessing it would be similar to this:


Originally Posted by chipcom View Post
HTFU. contribute a nominal amount, go to the party and be gracious, my dear. You are the future, she is the past...and more importantly, you are better than her. Set the bar, don't lower it. ;0
__________________
thomson is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 11:08 AM
  #19  
artifice
superArti
 
artifice's Avatar
 
Join Date: Apr 2008
Location: Minnersoter
Posts: 1,056

Bikes: 2007 Fuji Professional 2.0, 2009 GTw Avalanche 2.0

Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Originally Posted by chipcom View Post
HTFU. contribute a nominal amount, go to the party and be gracious, my dear. You are the future, she is the past...and more importantly, you are better than her. Set the bar, don't lower it. ;0
I'm going to add a +7(?) here.
$10 or so is a respectable minimum that shouldn't break the bank. Considering your short time working together, appropriate as well. Plus, there are so many politics in education- so you can still look good to the other employees
__________________
i woke up one morning and i stepped out of bed | had to get a bike, had to paint it red
Of all the treasures I have, its the memories that are the most precious.
artifice is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 11:17 AM
  #20  
BikeWNC
Climbing Above It All
 
BikeWNC's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Basking in the Sun.
Posts: 4,146
Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Originally Posted by pgoat View Post
Hmm...

tough call. Personally, I would

-not attend the function if you feel that uncomfortable - that much is certain

-contribute the minimum $ amount towards her gift, if you want

-send a short card of your own expressing something along the lines that you wished your interactions could have been more positive and wish her well in her retirement....this may sound crazy but it might be very cathartic for you. For someone to be that at odds with someone as sweet as you, she must be a bitter old battleaxe and then some, but hey - even battleaxes need love sometimes. We'll all be retiring someday; why not end it on a good note between you. If she is unreceptive, at least you did the right thing, and it's her loss.
+1 Never burn bridges. A principle is very well connected in the school district. She may even run for the school board someday. Be positive in your attitude and take the high road.
BikeWNC is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 11:22 AM
  #21  
coasting 
Still can't climb
 
Join Date: Sep 2006
Location: Limey in Taiwan
Posts: 23,024
Mentioned: 23 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 10 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
i'm starting to look bad in this thread. the only support i have is from the goat and that is cold comfort.
coasting is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 11:26 AM
  #22  
Shifty
Sore saddle cyclist
 
Shifty's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jan 2005
Location: Eugene, OR
Posts: 3,874

Bikes: Road, touring and mountain

Mentioned: 1 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 36 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Another one for Chipcom's approach, a good time to show you are a class act. Inside, you will know you are celebrating....her being gone!
Shifty is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 11:43 AM
  #23  
pgoat
Batw Griekgriek
 
pgoat's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2005
Location: NYC - for the moment...
Posts: 2,908

Bikes: 1985 Trek 500, 1986 Trek 500 Tri Series, 2005 Cannondale R1000

Mentioned: 2 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 22 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Originally Posted by coasting View Post
i'm starting to look bad in this thread. the only support i have is from the goat and that is cold comfort.
Not really, I was just feeling bad for you

Plus, hey - it's Monkey Poo!!!
__________________
Originally Posted by jsharr View Post
People whose sig line does not include a jsharr quote annoy me.
pgoat is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 11:43 AM
  #24  
jeff^d
enginerd
 
jeff^d's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2004
Location: Camas, WA
Posts: 263

Bikes: Black Cat SS, Salsa Spearfish, Trek 520

Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
Be the bigger person! In this case especially, it doesn't require that much more time or effort. Plus, if the principal has a negative opinion of you, it never hurts to do something that forces someone to re-evaluate their feelings (for the better, of course).
jeff^d is offline  
Old 06-01-09, 11:53 AM
  #25  
Tude 
Blasted Weeds
 
Tude's Avatar
 
Join Date: Aug 2006
Location: Rochester, NY
Posts: 1,182

Bikes: Trek 1200C, Specialized Rockhopper, Giant Yukon FX, Giant Acapulco

Mentioned: 0 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 0 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 0 Times in 0 Posts
nope
__________________
Tude is offline  

Thread Tools
Search this Thread

Contact Us - Archive - Advertising - Cookie Policy - Privacy Statement - Terms of Service

Copyright 2018 MH Sub I, LLC dba Internet Brands. All rights reserved. Use of this site indicates your consent to the Terms of Use.