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Old 06-03-10, 02:29 AM
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Girl Advice?

So I haven't posted on the forums in awhile but thats probably a good thing considering I've been riding plenty. Back when I used to post regularly I remember always getting some solid advice from y'all.

So its summer and me and my girlfriend of about 4 months are doing the long distance relationship thing between semesters. Its been about a month since last semester ended. I went up to visit and stay with her family (its about a 5 1/2 hour drive) about 20 days ago. I stayed about 3 days. Where she's at there is no one her age and its completely in the middle of nowhere so I found myself talking on the phone and texting with her 24/7. Both were initiated about equally by both of us. She is supposed to come visit the 21st and stay for a week.
Right now she is spending a couple weeks at her moms house in a different state (about 3 1/2) hours away. Its where she went to high school so all her old friends and whatnot are there. Me and her seem to have hit a rough spot lately after being away from each other about 3 weeks. She seems to just way to busy and not very into me the last few days. I was talking to her friend and she kept suggesting I go up and visit her tomorrow night and stay the night and the next day (It would have to be that soon because I start work saturday). Her friend also said I'm all she talks about and that my girlfriend even said she'd be so shocked and so ridiculously happy if I showed up as a surprise.
What do you guys think? Do I come off as too "whipped." I already do alot for her and I want her to still respect me. I'm afraid driving all the way up there before she's even come down might make her lose her respect for me. Going would give me a chance to talk to her in person and try to figure things out and probably have a blast with her. On the other hand it might make her feel crowded and she might get even more upset. Advice?
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good god
let her go
find someone local
If you are going to university you are "bringing sand to the beach" with this one.
also make sure you find a woman with good family values instead of some loud mouthy tramp thats good for only one thing and will bring you nothing but heart ache for the rest of your life
just say'n
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Haha she is a nice girl and definitely does have really good values. I also know she really does like me. I don't start work till monday and literally don't have anything to do around here. Maybe I'm just saying that to try and justify going to myself.
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Originally Posted by RichinPeoria View Post
good god
let her go
find someone local
If you are going to university you are "bringing sand to the beach" with this one.
also make sure you find a woman with good family values instead of some loud mouthy tramp thats good for only one thing and will bring you nothing but heart ache for the rest of your life
just say'n

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Mude, how long have you two known each other?
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Haha she is a nice girl and definitely does have really good values. I also know she really does like me. I don't start work till monday and literally don't have anything to do around here. Maybe I'm just saying that to try and justify going to myself.
Then go. The idea of being "whipped" is for people too insecure to think for themselves. If you really dig her, go have fun with her.

You drove out to see her once. If you go again, that'll be twice. If this becomes a habit and she never drives to see you, then you have something to worry about, and no, it's not being "whipped." Freakin' go for god's sake.
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Old 06-03-10, 06:44 AM
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SingingSabre - We've known each other about 5 months, been dating about 4. Its weird though because it definitely feels like I've known her forever. Sometime I feel like we kinda have moved a little fast but then I think about it and realize that maybe its not "fast" or "slow" but just a pace that comfortable for both of us. She's defintely never pressured me into anything and I hope I haven't done that to her.
UnsafeAlpine - She's supposed to come at the end of June so I definitely don't feel like I'd be the one doing all the work.
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Originally Posted by UnsafeAlpine View Post
Then go. The idea of being "whipped" is for people too insecure to think for themselves. If you really dig her, go have fun with her.

You drove out to see her once. If you go again, that'll be twice. If this becomes a habit and she never drives to see you, then you have something to worry about, and no, it's not being "whipped." Freakin' go for god's sake.
I'm inclined to agree.

I'm going to say +0.8

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Originally Posted by mude View Post
SingingSabre - We've known each other about 5 months, been dating about 4. Its weird though because it definitely feels like I've known her forever. Sometime I feel like we kinda have moved a little fast but then I think about it and realize that maybe its not "fast" or "slow" but just a pace that comfortable for both of us. She's defintely never pressured me into anything and I hope I haven't done that to her.
UnsafeAlpine - She's supposed to come at the end of June so I definitely don't feel like I'd be the one doing all the work.
What are you still doing here?
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Old 06-03-10, 06:52 AM
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It's been clearly established that RubenX sucks at this, more than at anything else. Therefore I can not provide any advice. However, my good wishes your way and good luck with the girls.
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I only wish my fiance was a 5 hour drive away.

That would be nice.

Could easily drive to see her or make it a two day ride and we could be together, enjoy each other's company, have lots of crazy mind blowing sex... you know... the usual.

Basically... what are you still doing here ?
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Go see her, who cares if you think you are whipped. I traveled to Japan for a long distance romance. I worked in Seattle for Boeing, and traveled to Japan twice a month to see my Gf. Did that for three years until I married her. Now, we have a 19 month old. And live in the mid-west. I would do it over again.
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leave her alone - go hang out with some buddies
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Originally Posted by UnsafeAlpine View Post
Then go. The idea of being "whipped" is for people too insecure to think for themselves. If you really dig her, go have fun with her.

You drove out to see her once. If you go again, that'll be twice. If this becomes a habit and she never drives to see you, then you have something to worry about, and no, it's not being "whipped." Freakin' go for god's sake.
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leave her alone - go hang out with some buddies
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Originally Posted by Sixty Fiver View Post
I only wish my fiance was a 5 hour drive away.

That would be nice.

Could easily drive to see her or make it a two day ride and we could be together, enjoy each other's company, have lots of crazy mind blowing sex... you know... the usual.

Basically... what are you still doing here ?
+1

My girlfriend and I got together three weeks before I left to work at a summer camp (7 weeks away), then I was back again for 2 weeks before I had to move 90 miles away to teach. We honestly haven't ever lived in the same town. Now I may have the opportunity to move back. You gotta do what you gotta do.
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Originally Posted by RichinPeoria View Post
make sure you find a woman with good family values instead of some loud mouthy tramp thats good for only one thing and will bring you nothing but heart ache for the rest of your life
just say'n
Wow that was totally random. Just curious....what makes you think she's a tramp and has no good family values??

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It's been clearly established that RubenX sucks at this, more than at anything else. Therefore I can not provide any advice. However, my good wishes your way and good luck with the girls.
Yeah but we still love you. I miss our Ruben.

Mude...I have a feeling you may be putting too much thought into this. Unless she is having so much fun being with friends she hasn't seen for a while I would go enjoy yourself and visit her. I think her friends would have a kick meeting you and she would be very surprised.
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Just make sure her mom's cool with you spending the night (unless you're getting a hotel). Sometimes unexpected guests can be unwelcome. If that's not an issue, gas up and go already.
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Wow that was totally random. Just curious....what makes you think she's a tramp and has no good family values??
Experience.

Tramps with no values are all Peoria has to offer.
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Go visit...

She probably just misses you and gets to emotional when she tries to call or whatever. Trust me, girls like surprise visits
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Experience.

Tramps with no values are all Peoria has to offer.
Hmm. Makes sense. Thanks.
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Wow that was totally random. Just curious....what makes you think she's a tramp and has no good family values??
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I didnt say that the woman he is speaking about is a tramp.

I dont live in Peoria any longer and Im not the guy in my avatar either.

I can tell you I dont have much good to say about women from the US. They are mostly to blame for the breakdown of the family structure that we a suffering thru now. (50% divorce rate etc.)

Latinas have much better family values, generally speaking, and that is the culture I have chosen to raise my family in.
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I didnt say that the woman he is speaking about is a tramp.

I dont live in Peoria any longer and Im not the guy in my avatar either.

I can tell you I dont have much good to say about women from the US. They are mostly to blame for the breakdown of the family structure that we a suffering thru now. (50% divorce rate etc.)

Latinas have much better family values, generally speaking, and that is the culture I have chosen to raise my family in.
Yeah, god damn those women wanting equality...
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Originally Posted by RichinPeoria View Post
I didnt say that the woman he is speaking about is a tramp.

I dont live in Peoria any longer and Im not the guy in my avatar either.

I can tell you I dont have much good to say about women from the US. They are mostly to blame for the breakdown of the family structure that we a suffering thru now. (50% divorce rate etc.)
woah!
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