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Old 11-18-11, 12:19 PM
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Originally Posted by caloso View Post
Depends on the kid. We have 7 year old twins. One I'd be fine with leaving for a few hours right now. The other, I'd probably wait a few years.
Can you teld them apart?
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Old 11-18-11, 12:24 PM
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I think it just depends on the kid.. my niece was fine home alone probably by 7.. not that we really tested that one out but compared to myself she was quite mature, I think 12 or so I started getting left alone...
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Old 11-18-11, 01:49 PM
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I was left home at age 10 with 3 young children while my mother and father worked. None of us died... but I can't say things did not happen. 1) as a latchkey kid from age 5 on... it sucks. That's from the kids perspective. You have to come straight home. You can't play with friends. You are expected to behave and not get into trouble. It means you are limited to the TV or the internet (another can of worms with no parent at home) and don't get to go outside and play like kid should (BTW I had neither as a kid - just books).

Kids are kids and will get into trouble. Frankly I believe it wrong to leave kids alone at home for any length of time before the age of 12. But then again there is no hard and fast rule.... I was very responsible at 12, but I know 19 years old who can't be trusted for a minute.

And how long after school? 2 hours, 3, 4 6? If a kid knows you are coming home within 2 hours, most likely they will behave. If 5 or 6... well, plenty of time to try something and then clean it up before parents get home.

BTW I have a friend who left her 20 & 22 year old for 4 days and whent hey returned the house was literally ruined. The 20 year had to leave for several weeks to allow the parents temper to cool down. Every child is different. But no matter I would definitely make sure children up until the age of 10 - 12, have adult supervision of some kind.
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Old 11-18-11, 06:08 PM
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Originally Posted by RubenX View Post
Can you teld them apart?

Yes. My son has blue eyes; my daughter has brown eyes.
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Old 11-18-11, 06:30 PM
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Originally Posted by caloso View Post
Yes. My son has blue eyes; my daughter has brown eyes.
Anybody want to bet even money it's the girl caloso trusts home alone? I've got a $5 US bill that smells like bourbon the boy is a handful!
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Old 11-18-11, 07:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Pamestique View Post
I was left home at age 10 with 3 young children while my mother and father worked. None of us died... but I can't say things did not happen. 1) as a latchkey kid from age 5 on... it sucks. That's from the kids perspective. You have to come straight home. You can't play with friends. You are expected to behave and not get into trouble. It means you are limited to the TV or the internet (another can of worms with no parent at home) and don't get to go outside and play like kid should (BTW I had neither as a kid - just books).

Kids are kids and will get into trouble. Frankly I believe it wrong to leave kids alone at home for any length of time before the age of 12. But then again there is no hard and fast rule.... I was very responsible at 12, but I know 19 years old who can't be trusted for a minute.

And how long after school? 2 hours, 3, 4 6? If a kid knows you are coming home within 2 hours, most likely they will behave. If 5 or 6... well, plenty of time to try something and then clean it up before parents get home.

BTW I have a friend who left her 20 & 22 year old for 4 days and whent hey returned the house was literally ruined. The 20 year had to leave for several weeks to allow the parents temper to cool down. Every child is different. But no matter I would definitely make sure children up until the age of 10 - 12, have adult supervision of some kind.
and lets not forget about the crazy mother ****ers out there waiting patiently for you to drop your guard for just a second so they can grab up your kid! They should be put to death the moment they are caught! ****ers! Sorry, I tend to freak out when I hear about this type of ****.
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Old 11-18-11, 08:27 PM
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make your kids come straight home and copy definitions 4 pages from a dictionary word for word everyday . my dad did that to me. hahaha
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Old 11-18-11, 10:03 PM
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I had a "stay at home" mom, and my kids had a "stay at home" dad, but I think we felt comfortable leaving the kids home alone when the younger one was 5 - the older one was 13. We would leave the older one home without the younger one at age 10, though. The little guy was - and still is - a handful! Thank goodness he's moved out!
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I just have a chat with a friend... he works as Juvenile Probation Officer in my county, on the sexual predators division... oh god, no no no... no way I'm leaving kiddo alone now... not if I can't avoid it... no no nope, NO.

You have to worry more about the teenagers nearby than about anything else.
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Old 11-18-11, 11:24 PM
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My mom once left me alone when I was 9 because she had to go see her friend in the hospital. She came back to 2 gallons of canola oil on the kitchen floor and oil footsteps throughout the house.
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Old 11-19-11, 11:33 AM
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Personally, I think it's better for a child to come home from school and have someone there to great them & feed them. I recall that my latch-key friends would rather come to my house than go home to thier empty house.
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Old 11-19-11, 12:10 PM
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I was raised by wolves, they left me alone, from the time I was an infant, to go hunting and such.
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Old 11-20-11, 01:30 AM
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It was age 8 for me in 1986 or so. What a shame that our society has apparently become more dangerous and fractured to the point that people would think that too young.
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Old 11-20-11, 02:18 AM
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It was age 8 for me in 1986 or so. What a shame that our society has apparently become more dangerous and fractured to the point that people would think that too young.
It hasn't, but with 24 hour news networks that use fear to boost their ratings it sure appears to become worse.
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Old 11-20-11, 02:32 AM
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I remember being able to stay at home with my little brother when I was 8, (he was 7) but it was a small town and we always knew where our parents were and had numbers to call and had this thing called neighbours.
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Old 11-20-11, 08:03 AM
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I'm starting to hear a bunch of rationalizations and sentences that begin with a loud old-man type clearing of the throat: "snoooooooort...when I was a kid...". One of the biggest things that I've had to deal with since becoming a parent is a work/life balance. I've had to turn down overtime, work crappy hours, and in effect give up promotions/raises to be home. I made the decision even before having kids to put family first no matter what.

Not everyone at work does this, one lady works sixty hours a week, had a baby, and came back to 60 hours a week less than a month later. Sometimes their family life is fine, that's just the way it is. Other times their family life suffers dramatically. I'm not sure what I'll do when my kids hit 8-12, but I'm going to do my best to be around for them--not use the "ah, they'll be fine" excuse to do what I want to do. Coming home to a house without parents day after day sucks. Coming home to play parent for your siblings day after day sucks even more. And parents, the extravagant gifts and trips once in a while doesn't make up for it, kids want their parents around on a regular basis.

And, not to play alarmist, but accidents are the leading cause of death of kids over 1. Using my kids as an example, I'll have an 8&9 year old. If my 9 year old starts choking on something, will my 8 year old know what to do and be able to do it? Everyone gives the ol' school tough guy response, but no one knows what to say to the parent who lost a child because of an accident.

I'm not saying anyone here is a bad parent, and I'm sure everyone is making responsible choices, but it's just food for thought. As for me, leaving my kids home alone will be an exercise in trust, like if my wife and I want to go out. Leaving them home alone because we have to work will be the last resort--afterschool care, clubs, sports, will be tried first.
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Not sure, but I think I heard some where leaving a child under 12 alone is a violation of the law is some places. Comes down to "the child"?
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Originally Posted by ____asdfghjkl View Post
make your kids come straight home and copy definitions 4 pages from a dictionary word for word everyday . my dad did that to me. hahaha
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