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Old 12-05-12, 08:18 PM
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Originally Posted by skidder View Post
What does everyong have in common? Do you and all the others work at the same place, have a common interest (like bicycles )? That's a good way to get a conversation started.

I've had two sales jobs in my life, so striking up a conversation with strangers (or getting rejected by 'em) isn't a problem with me.
Things in common...hmmmm.....sex+poop?
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Old 12-05-12, 08:34 PM
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Things in common...hmmmm.....sex+poop?
Poop during sex?
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Old 12-05-12, 08:53 PM
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A great majority of the respondents to this thread have assumed that the quiet person is eager to talk to others and just doesn't know how. This broad mis-conception simply fuels the notion that there is something wrong with anyone who does not want to talk to everyone. What is wrong with keeping to one's self? I loathe the talking to half drunk people about sports. However, I do like a bit of company and a social atmosphere, so I do go out.
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Old 12-05-12, 09:11 PM
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^ jim, the op has asked how to "schmooze" and "network," and wants to try to "stop being so shy."

he also doesn't drink, which makes it that much more challenging when there's beer around.

if drugs are out too, and if the code permits, i'd say buy a brand new, perfectly fitting jacket or blazer. you'll feel like a million bucks.
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Old 12-05-12, 09:21 PM
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she

but this isn't a house party. it's at a venue. i'm probably just psyching myself out.

i'm sure it won't be like the first day of school where everyone arrives and just stares awkwardly waiting for someone to break the ice.
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Old 12-05-12, 09:28 PM
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"She"

How hot are you? If you are hot don't worry everyone will try to talk to you. Well...all the guys anyways.
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Old 12-05-12, 09:41 PM
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Originally Posted by mystolenbikes View Post
"She"

How hot are you? If you are hot don't worry everyone will try to talk to you. Well...all the guys anyways.
She is pretty darn cute, especially when she wears goggles. I recommend wearing goggles to this event, in fact.
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Old 12-05-12, 09:45 PM
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Originally Posted by ____asdfghjkl View Post
she

but this isn't a house party. it's at a venue. i'm probably just psyching myself out.

i'm sure it won't be like the first day of school where everyone arrives and just stares awkwardly waiting for someone to break the ice.
Smiles melt a lot of ice.
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Old 12-06-12, 06:05 AM
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Originally Posted by jdon View Post
Smiles melt a lot of ice.
And if my memory for photos in other threads is correct, the OP has that part covered very well.


In my part of the world (well, where I grew up) there is a expression about people who can strike up an conversation with anyone. I'm a poster child for the expression "I could talk to Snowy off the trams".

I just don't get the too shy thing...I've even made TSA Officers laugh and become chatty.
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Old 12-06-12, 08:35 AM
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A lot of people have already said what I came in to say, but I am going to say it anyway:

There is nothing wrong with being shy. There is nothing wrong with sitting in the corner. There is nothing wrong with not talking to anyone.

There seems to be this social thing where people want to "fix" shy people or introverts, and thus introverts and shy people think that there is something wrong with them, so shy people try to do what they can to be less shy or less introverted, losing themselves and being miserable in the process.

I used to be very shy and introverted, and I hated how people would try to drag me out into large group settings because I "needed to be less shy!" Bull! I didn't "need" to be anything; just myself. And I stayed myself, and people didn't get it. They thought that I could be "fixed" by going out with a large group a few times.

I simply just stopped talking to those people.

As I get older, I get less and less shy, and compared to my friends I am super duper outgoing. This wasn't a conscious effort to change. It was just natural for me and not to satisfy anyone else's desires for me. That being said, sometimes there are occasions where I wish I were less shy so I wouldn't talk soooo much or jump into swimming pools naked without realizing that I scarred all my friends for life, but those are other issues...
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Old 12-06-12, 08:40 AM
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I'm really shy too. I hate going parties alone. So I don't. Back in my going to clubs days, me and my girlfriend would drive around to various clubs and sit in the parking lot to chicken to go in. We'd have to find one that didn't look to crowded or 'weird'. Once we got in and had a few drinks, it was a different story.
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