Talking shop (bikes) at a mixed group event, a foul up
02-06-19, 11:00 AM
#176
Senior Member
Join Date: Sep 2015
Location: Left Coast, Canada
Posts: 5,126
Mentioned: 24 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2236 Post(s)
Liked 1,313 Times
in
706 Posts
No, certainly not in this scenario. A spouse shouldn't "get to" do anything. What are we, 12 years old? Married couples talk about things, and talk through social events in advance. Is one spouse preparing a meal for the other, or inviting family members to the event? That bears consideration. Dropping in with riding buddies unannounced (or planned spur of the minute) is probably a foul on its face. The husband in this instance can hang out with riding buddies on any weekend. Why on this particular time? Does this have anything to do with the invited family members, or not wanting to spend time with them? Is there something unsaid? The OP explanation was not satisfactory on that score.
For myself, my birthdays are the day where my wife and daughters decide what they'd like to do with their dad. I comply and enjoy their company. I would not consider what I "get to do" other than to honor the effort that my wife and girls make. Whatever that might be.
That's why I've never gone on a "birthday ride". Because I choose not to.
For myself, my birthdays are the day where my wife and daughters decide what they'd like to do with their dad. I comply and enjoy their company. I would not consider what I "get to do" other than to honor the effort that my wife and girls make. Whatever that might be.
That's why I've never gone on a "birthday ride". Because I choose not to.
On Fathers, Mothers, Birth - Days in our family it is usually the honoured persons choice as to what will happen. Choice of cafe, activity etc... although one could say we care enough about each other to make it a mutually agreeable experience. It is fine if other people have a different system of course but I would hope the same sense of give and take applies. People should not feel like they have to sneak off in spare moments to enjoy their passions. They should be celebrated as a vital part of who they are.
02-06-19, 11:01 AM
#177
Banned.
Join Date: Dec 2017
Location: France
Posts: 1,030
Bikes: Brompton, Time, Bianchi, Jan Janssen, Peugeot
Mentioned: 6 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 598 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 5 Times
in
5 Posts
I would never have guessed, seeing as I'm a big fan of icelandic literature
Nevertheless, you have to agree, yours wasn't the subtlest of phrasing.
Nevertheless, you have to agree, yours wasn't the subtlest of phrasing.
02-06-19, 11:23 AM
#179
Generally bewildered
Join Date: Aug 2015
Location: Eastern PA, USA
Posts: 3,018
Bikes: 2014 Trek Domane 6.9, 1999 LeMond Zurich, 1978 Schwinn Superior
Mentioned: 20 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 1143 Post(s)
Liked 322 Times
in
240 Posts
"Somewhere else" is a responsible suggestion here, I think. The OP got input from other cyclists, but we are biased, do not have the time necessary or access to all parties to get a complete picture, and are not trained or skilled (or predisposed in my case - I seem to be able to create discord pretty easily with my comments) to resolve such issues.
02-06-19, 11:25 AM
#180
Tragically Ignorant
Join Date: Jun 2018
Location: New England
Posts: 15,613
Bikes: Serotta Atlanta; 1994 Specialized Allez Pro; Giant OCR A1; SOMA Double Cross Disc; 2022 Allez Elite mit der SRAM
Mentioned: 62 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 8185 Post(s)
Liked 9,086 Times
in
5,052 Posts
Would it be impolite to note the reputation of France in the humor department?
Really weird turn to a particularly silly thread.
02-06-19, 11:29 AM
#181
Advanced Slacker
Join Date: Feb 2017
Posts: 6,099
Bikes: Soma Fog Cutter, Surly Wednesday, Canfielld Tilt
Mentioned: 26 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 2706 Post(s)
Liked 2,461 Times
in
1,390 Posts
02-06-19, 11:30 AM
#182
Tragically Ignorant
Join Date: Jun 2018
Location: New England
Posts: 15,613
Bikes: Serotta Atlanta; 1994 Specialized Allez Pro; Giant OCR A1; SOMA Double Cross Disc; 2022 Allez Elite mit der SRAM
Mentioned: 62 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 8185 Post(s)
Liked 9,086 Times
in
5,052 Posts
"Somewhere else" is a responsible suggestion here, I think. The OP got input from other cyclists, but we are biased, do not have the time necessary or access to all parties to get a complete picture, and are not trained or skilled (or predisposed in my case - I seem to be able to create discord pretty easily with my comments) to resolve such issues.
Totally agree with that. So much so, that I think I posted some variation on it about three times.
People's advice to strangers about such things generally says a lot about the person giving the advice and nothing about the person seeking it.
I'm pretty sure OP wishes he could take this thread down, judging from his calling everyone "nuts".
02-06-19, 11:52 AM
#183
Banned.
Join Date: Dec 2017
Location: France
Posts: 1,030
Bikes: Brompton, Time, Bianchi, Jan Janssen, Peugeot
Mentioned: 6 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 598 Post(s)
Likes: 0
Liked 5 Times
in
5 Posts
Warning: these films display the best and worst of British humour. I doubt many would find them amusing now, since the double entendre is almost thankfully no more.
Last edited by avole; 02-06-19 at 11:55 AM.
02-06-19, 12:13 PM
#185
Tragically Ignorant
Join Date: Jun 2018
Location: New England
Posts: 15,613
Bikes: Serotta Atlanta; 1994 Specialized Allez Pro; Giant OCR A1; SOMA Double Cross Disc; 2022 Allez Elite mit der SRAM
Mentioned: 62 Post(s)
Tagged: 0 Thread(s)
Quoted: 8185 Post(s)
Liked 9,086 Times
in
5,052 Posts
Not really. I was brought up on some particularly silly British carry on films, where double entendre, usually led by a smirking Kenneth Williams, was de jour. If you haven't seen them, try Carry on up the Khyber
Warning: these films display the best and worst of British humour. I doubt many would find them amusing now, since the double entendre is almost thankfully no more.
Warning: these films display the best and worst of British humour. I doubt many would find them amusing now, since the double entendre is almost thankfully no more.
Trust me, that was never in the same galaxy as the best of British humor.
02-06-19, 12:45 PM
#186
Administrator
Join Date: Apr 2005
Location: Hudson Valley, NY
Posts: 32,298
Bikes: Merlin Cyrene '04; Bridgestone RB-1 '92
Mentioned: 324 Post(s)
Tagged: 2 Thread(s)
Quoted: 11417 Post(s)
Liked 5,879 Times
in
3,133 Posts
The politics is not acceptable, gentlemen.
Closed, regardless, too far off topic.
Closed, regardless, too far off topic.
__________________
See, this is why we can't have nice things. - - smarkinson
Where else but the internet can a bunch of cyclists go and be the tough guy? - - jdon
Thread
Thread Starter
Forum
Replies
Last Post
the shark
Road Cycling
12
04-05-10 07:49 PM
