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Old 08-17-04, 05:48 PM
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Ladies, I Need Some Advice Please...ps I Am A Guy

Lady Bikers, I need some good advice from you. I met my wife when I was in 7th grade and she was in 6th grade and we became boyfriend and girlfriend at that point and continued through high school. A month after she graduated from high school we got married and have been married now for 33 years and we still enjoy being together as much as we can. As you can see we both grew up together and I was looking for something new as a hobby that we could do together so I went out last night and bought us a couple bikes. I got her a Trek "Town & Country" bike and I got a Cannondale Warrior bike. Her plans are not to ride as much or as far as I hope to but I want to be able for her to enjoy this as much as possible. Here is where I need your help. What can I do that will make this as much fun for her as I can? I know as a "guy" I can try hard to do the right thing but still miss the target by a mile! How about some ideas? Thanks in advance for any help I receive.....Don
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Old 08-17-04, 06:47 PM
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First, had you ask her if a bicycle was what she wanted or did you just take it upon yourself to assume she would be willing to ride with you? If she wanted a bike, then please make sure that it fits her correctly, have the bike shop measure her on the bike, this can make a world of difference on how long she will want to be on the bike.
Second, don't expect her to want to do the same distance or speed as you would like. If she wants to just "cruise" then do that with her for awhile until she really lets you know she wants to continue to ride. If you feel that you have to ride hard, do it on a day when she won't be riding. I know that I don't like being left behind even if I am riding with my husband, I might as well have ridden by myself.
Make sure that she eats and drinks and has plenty of rest stops. I know when I use to go out on long rides with my husband I would end up bonking and not even know that was happening, I just knew that I was now hating the ride because I had no energy left.
Take her to the bike shop and show her all the pretty jersey's they have and buy her the one that catches her eye--woman love clothes.
What really makes a good bike ride, at least for me, is if my husband offers to take me to lunch at the half way point, that can make the ride worth while. Or you might even tell her that you can ride to a park somewhere close by and eat at the park.
If all else fails, ask her what she wants out of this, you may find out that this isn't her cup of tea and if it turns out that way, don't be disappointed and certainly don't bring it up again unless she does.
I hope that you both find you really enjoy bicycling and then if you do maybe you can eventually get a tandem to ride together.
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Old 08-17-04, 07:18 PM
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Litespeed, great ideas!! I knew you gals would come up with some good stuff....Actually I only hinted at getting us each a bike because I know that if I were to say, "Why don't we buy a couple of bikes and go riding" she would do it just because she knew I wanted to. I just mentioned it about a week ago and told her that not all bikes are alike and wondered what she thought about it. She called me from her work yesterday and asked if I would take her to the bike store and look around so we did and we just strolled around the store until she saw one that wasn't very "Star Wars" like and said that she would like to give that a try so they explained some about the bike and made sure it was the right size and out the door we went and she rode it twice around the parking lot and by the smile on her face I knew I better get the "debit card" out. She came back and said, "That was fun." So, I told the person helping us that we did want that bike. My wife said, "Aren't you going to look at a bike?" So I asked her to look around and see which one she thought that I would like and of course she picked the "prettiest" one. So I asked the person what they had in a bike that would be good for me and looked like that one and he took us to a Cannondale Road Warrior 800 and I test rode it and liked it and we bought it. I did have her look at the bike shorts and jerseys and she told me she would rather not stick out in the crowd so she asked if I would buy her the bike shorts that have the padding but go underneath other shorts or pants so she didn't have to wear the real tight bike shorts on the outside so I did. Not sure if she wants a jersey yet or not. At this point neither or us are looking to riding long distances but if I desire to and she doesn't I will take your advice and ride at her speed and distance. I had not thought of the idea of riding where we would be close to a place to eat and stopping to eat but will give that a try as it does sound like something she would enjoy and me too. We did talk about that this would be a trial thing to see if we both liked it or not so neither of us has the "it has to work attitude". Again, thanks for the neat ideas. Anyone else have some more?
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Old 08-17-04, 09:15 PM
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When you ride with her, vary things, don't just go out to ride. I like to have places to ride; a coffee shop, a bike shop (or some shop) to go window shopping in, a nice park to sit and take a little rest in and maybe eat a snack or lunch, a friend's house for a gabfest, etc.

I ride slower than my husband, which makes me work to keep up with him, and makes him take it easy to slow down to me, which he can use once in a while. If I am not into working to keep up, I'll just have him ride ahead and I'll meet him somewhere; this is what we did riding to and from Solana Beach (Southern California) to Mira Mesa one day over Memorial Day Weekend. I let him go ahead riding there and he pretty much stayed with me riding back. It was a good ride, for both me and him.

Be flexible as to speed, work and destinations and be willing to work to get the your wife's bike bike to where it is comfortable to ride over long distances.

Cruise and enjoy yourselves!
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Old 08-17-04, 09:43 PM
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Keep in mind your differances in sizes too. If she weighs 1/2 as much as you do, it'll make a differance in her stanima and ability. For example, I weigh 123 and my husband was 225 when we cycled together last. When a truck goes by, it's no problem for him but I have tend to get blown around. That also affects how much weight I can carry in a backpack also.

Most people like the social biking as suggested. You can even drive part of the way, bike to meet another couple. Or bike with another couple. There's so many *low pressure* ways to cycle that are enjoyable for everyone.
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Old 08-18-04, 06:51 AM
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Thanks for this information as I had not considered some of the things mentioned. We are starting out just riding through our neighborhood which is about 1 1/2 to 2 miles round trip. Please keep the good ideas coming!!! Don...
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Things that helped when I was starting:

My BF would carry all the tools and snacks so I didn't have to worry about it.

He would let me draft - not in real paceline settings, but he would lead and I would follow a safe distance behind, but I still got some benefit

Then, he would let me lead, so that I was setting the pace that I was comfortable with.

We would take breaks whenever we wanted - no pressure to keep moving.

Now, he's created a monster, and I can't get enough hours on my bike!

Encourage her to sign on here with her questions. I'm new, but I've discovered women cyclists to be an incredibly friendly and encouraging bunch!
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Old 08-18-04, 10:47 AM
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I like to go to places like the St. Louis Zoo and the Forest Park area in St. Louis. For example, we have a Forest Park Great Balloon Race every September. Last year I convinced my husband to put the bikes in the pickup truck, and we parked at the Zoo parking lot. We then locked our bikes to a tree and did about an hour of viewing in the zoo (no bikes allowed). When we were done, we rode our bikes to the area of the balloon race. Since it was packed there, using the bikes was an easy way to get around, it would have been a nightmare in the truck. It was fun and there were other cyclists there as well. One guy was nice enough to let us use his mini-pump for my husband's tire. I look forward to places where we can take the bikes. My husband hates crowds and being on the bikes gives him that "space" that he desires. We are still finding fun ways to ride together.
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More ideas that I hadn't thought of. Setting the pace hadn't occured to me other than for me not to go to fast and to make some rest stops and to let her lead...thanks.... Also I hadn't thought before posting here about making the bike trip a part of something else such as St. Louis Zoo and bike riding etc. I know she'll like that! Thanks.
Keep 'um coming!!!
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Old 08-18-04, 01:30 PM
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Bike Riding.. will my butt every quit hurting!

It gets better. Maybe you have the wrong seat.
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Old 08-18-04, 02:01 PM
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[It gets better. Maybe you have the wrong seat.]

I'm just starting out so that is probably why but "Whoa" does it hurt when I first get on the bike....
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Go to fun, scenic places like parks, lakes or rivers. Take a picnic. Go spend the afternoon riding around for an hour or so, then sit and have some food, and jump back on the bike. What could be more pleasant?

You could also join a "new cyclists club" where others are new to biking also. You'd meet some new friends that like to bike. Or you could start a "Sunday Ride" with others you know that bike. Pack up the bikes and go somewhere scenic to ride around.

Just a couple of ideas...

I've heard of some bike shorts that are cargo pants-looking. They have pockets, but still have the padded seat.
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Old 08-18-04, 04:47 PM
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Good ideas! The cargo pants would sure be nice. Does anyone know where to get them?
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