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Old 06-12-13, 09:28 AM
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Friendly driver incidents?

After seeing all of the negative experiences in gerv's "Pet Peeves" thread (and his comment on the amount of negativity), how about a friendly incident with local drivers?

Last Monday, I was on the left hand side of a right turn/straight ahead lane and waved a car up to let him turn. When he pulled up next to me, he said "Thank you for being considerate". It felt kind of nice...

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Old 06-12-13, 09:37 AM
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I was approaching an intersection in a residential area a few days ago, 4 way stop and the driver on the cross street got there first. She waved me on, but since her window was down, I waved her on and said "you have right of way". She thanked me and seemed surprised to find a cyclist following traffic rules. Now I had the ROW and I went before the next driver did.
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Old 06-12-13, 10:05 AM
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I came to a red light, and was riding AFRAP. Before the light changed, she rolled down her window, and asked if she could turn in front of me. I waved her on, and she thanked me.

And, daily, cars allow me the right of way, when they are turning across the intersection, and I am going straight. And, car generally do the 4-way stop round-robin properly, including me.

Another time, I came to a full stop, and waiting for the light. One driver stopped, and thanked me for following the law, and waiting on the red light. He mentioned nearly killing two cyclists today, who blew through red lights.

Generally, auto drivers are not our enemies. They are just trying to get where they need to go, without killing anyone.
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Old 06-12-13, 10:11 AM
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I found myself inadvertently funneled (by construction) into a tight two-way underpass in Queens with Jersey barriers for shoulders. Traffic was heavy but fast (40+ mph). I signaled to take the lane, so I wouldn't get sliced, and a thoughtful driver slowed down to allow my friend and me in front of her, gave us a lot of clearance, and kept the cars behind her off our backs until we'd made it up the other side and past the construction. Then she gave us a friendly wave at the next intersection. That downhill was the only time I've been really grateful for my 53x11 - but more grateful to the nice driver who decided not to cut us off.
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Old 06-12-13, 11:13 AM
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I'm grateful that 99.9 % of motorists give me no problem whatsoever.

But one time I made a very boneheaded maneuver involving a left turn in a big busy intersection. I don't know exactly what happened, but I think I would probably be dead if an alert motorist hadn't hit his brakes and his horn. I'm also grateful that all he did to me was shake his (index) finger.
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Old 06-13-13, 12:06 AM
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It's true: 99.9% of motorists are decent human beings, and even if they find bicycles annoying, will not harass them. But for totally understandable evolutionary reasons, we as a species tend to ignore the things that are going well and focus our energy on the things that are going awry. Bicyclists tend to focus their attention on those very few motorists who might kill them because of their aggression or stupidity. Motorists often fail to even see the many cyclists who follow traffic laws, and only remember those few morons who dart in front of them like squirrels.
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Old 06-13-13, 07:20 AM
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A few days ago a car was double parked in the bike lane so the vehicle on my left slowed down to allow me to merge. I waved, he gave me the thumbs up. I was riding at a pretty fast clip and it was raining, so it was much appreciated.

A lot of motorists in Toronto dislike cyclists but I've experienced about an equal number that are considerate and helpful.
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Old 06-13-13, 07:25 AM
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Last Saturday, while I was taking the Traffic Skills 101 class, our little convoy of 7 bicycles came up to a stop sign and we lined up in pairs to stop and then proceed. A motorist pulled up, and apparently thought that we looked like we were lining up as if in the Indy 500 race. So she gave us encouragement. To the one young guy among us oldsters, she yelled out "Represent!".
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Old 06-13-13, 05:49 PM
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On some days I have to cross HWY ramps/exits. Sometimes I use sidewalks to cross that section. I've had a couple of motorists slow down, flash their lights and wave at me ,giving me a right of way. I always wave back when that happens.
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Old 06-13-13, 06:00 PM
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I had a motorist try to give me a free cup of coffee once...
Too bad I couldn't catch it when he tossed it out of the window to me
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Old 06-13-13, 08:03 PM
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Ok... here's mine.

I'm in the bike lane on my way to work when an SUV slows down by me and the window rolls down.

Nervously, I ready my middle finger to respond when I discover it is the head of the local bicycle co-op,

Him: " Hi, I'm back from buying food for (some bike event)."

Me: " Cool! wanna race?"
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Old 06-13-13, 08:08 PM
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Originally Posted by bragi View Post
Bicyclists tend to focus their attention on those very few motorists who might kill them because of their aggression or stupidity.
I confess it gets my attention.
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Old 06-13-13, 08:44 PM
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Originally Posted by PedalingFool View Post
I had a motorist try to give me a free cup of coffee once...
Too bad I couldn't catch it when he tossed it out of the window to me
I had a fellow toss me a carton of fries while I was riding along, but he forgot to include the catsup.
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Old 06-13-13, 09:35 PM
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I was going uphill on my commute home the other day. This old guy in a truck blew his horn at me as he passed. I suppressed my instinct to flip him off (I swear, it's like a reflex or something). He pulls into a driveway a few hundred feet up the hill, and turns around to head back toward me. I prepare for the worst as he approaches and slows. He asks me to stop. I say "I'm not stopping on this hill". He turns around again to pass me in his original direction of travel. This time, he slows, and apologizes for blowing his horn. I'm so shocked, I nearly lose my balance. All I could muster was an "okay, thanks". I guess the net effect was more neutral than positive, but that's the best I can do.
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Old 06-13-13, 10:51 PM
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In many instances, way too often to count in many places in the U.S., people at stop signs, when I also have a stop sign, in all kinds of directions wave me on even though they got there way before I did. Often, I really appreciate the opportunity to stop and breathe, have some water and whatnot. Sometimes we get into an almost comical waving competition, until I make the "my heart/lung(s) are about to explode" motion with my hand, and they smile, wave, and go on.
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Old 06-14-13, 06:08 AM
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Originally Posted by DiegoFrogs View Post
In many instances, way too often to count in many places in the U.S., people at stop signs, when I also have a stop sign, in all kinds of directions wave me on even though they got there way before I did. Often, I really appreciate the opportunity to stop and breathe, have some water and whatnot. Sometimes we get into an almost comical waving competition, until I make the "my heart/lung(s) are about to explode" motion with my hand, and they smile, wave, and go on.
You ought to slow down a bit. ;-)
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Old 06-14-13, 08:47 AM
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I had a friendly motorist encounter yesterday on my commute home from work. I was waiting at a stoplight. At this intersection there was a left turn lane and a go straight/right turn lane. I was on the left side of the go straight/right turn lane, as I was going straight. A car pulled up beside me and the guy nicely asked me for advice on what the motorist etiquette should be with bicyclists such as myself at intersections such as this. I told him that he should be waiting behind me if he was going straight, otherwise I had left him room to turn right. The light went green and I had to go. A few moments later he went on by me, giving me plenty of room, with an enthusiastic hand wave.

On the other hand, a few days ago on my morning commute at a 4 way stop sign intersection, I got there at about the same moment as a car did opposite of me. A second car then approached from my right, I waited and watched carefully to make sure that car was going to stop. The driver never seemed to even tap the brake, never even glanced in my direction, as he just cruised through that stop sign. (The car opposite me never moved.) The stop sign running driver did finally look my way when he was halfway through the intersection. I put my arms out in a wtf? gesture and he emphatically shrugged his shoulders and drove on. Sheesh.
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Old 06-14-13, 12:14 PM
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I get a friendly wave from drivers from time to time.

This interaction may seem confrontational in written form but in real life it was quite friendly.

I approach a T intersection from the base of the T preparing to make a right turn. There's a steady stream of cars proceeding through (left to right). Across the intersection, just a lane away a truck is preparing to turn left - toward the direction I came from.
As we are both waiting, he yells out of the open truck window, "You are going to get killed!"
To which I replied, "I'll be fine, all the @$$holes are going the opposite direction."
He was laughing hysterically as I made my right and proceeded on.
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Riding in the city, I recently had two drivers pull over and profusely apologize for cutting me off. One involved pick-up truck in which he nearly mowed me down in such a way that I swear looked deliberate. He stopped ahead, rolled down his window to apologize. He went on for a bit but he seemed sincere. It's a good thing too, this guy looked like he would mess me up.
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Cycling up "the hump" on my way to Port Alberni I had a stranger pull over in his truck and offer to give me a lift to the top of the hill. I thanked him profusely, but explained I had to cycle up if I wanted to cycle down the other side. He thought that was pretty funny.
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Old 07-18-13, 08:42 AM
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Originally Posted by PedalingFool View Post
I had a motorist try to give me a free cup of coffee once...
Too bad I couldn't catch it when he tossed it out of the window to me
haha. best reply.
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Old 07-18-13, 09:55 AM
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All drivers hate me. It's just that most of them don't act out their hate.
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Two years ago in winter I was riding to work for my afternoon shift in a winter blizzard. My bicycle was losing traction on the front wheel and I was putting my feet down every few yards to catch the bicycle from falling. I was on a two lane road headed north. A woman in a green Ford Ranger coming from the other way must have been watching me. She pulled over and said that she wanted to give me a ride even though it was in the opposite direction. She didn't want me to be killed on the road because visibility was low. I wasn't sure I would make it to work on time in that weather so I let her take me and my bicycle another two miles to work. I thanked her for the ride and she was very happy that I wasn't run over by another car. Some people are just nice.
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Two years ago in winter I was riding to work for my afternoon shift in a winter blizzard. My bicycle was losing traction on the front wheel and I was putting my feet down every few yards to catch the bicycle from falling. I was on a two lane road headed north. A woman in a green Ford Ranger coming from the other way must have been watching me. She pulled over and said that she wanted to give me a ride even though it was in the opposite direction. She didn't want me to be killed on the road because visibility was low. I wasn't sure I would make it to work on time in that weather so I let her take me and my bicycle another two miles to work. I thanked her for the ride and she was very happy that I wasn't run over by another car. Some people are just nice.
That was nice of her. At first I thought this story was headed in a more x-rated direction.
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