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Old 04-23-08, 04:06 AM
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Broken spoke, wife says..

Broke spoke on bike, now fixed. Since I had the wheel off, thought might as well wash/wax/lube the bike. Now I want to install new bar tape and make adjustments to the saddle.

Wife says: "You spent sooooo much money on the bike and it keeps breaking!"

No, it doesn't keep breaking, I'm just tinkering for relaxation. But the funny thing is, it's a bottom of the range Specialized Allez which I got on good deal on £400 instead of £530. My wife thinks this is a mega-expensive bike. I keep explaining it's the lowest good quality bike available, but she keeps comparing it to Walmart bikes claiming you can get a real-good bike for £99.99.

Humph! What's a guy to do!?

Edit:
Thanks Psimet, nickshu and others. I forgot to mention that my wife has NO HOBBIES and doesn't buy expensive purses and shoes (for which I am grateful) - in fact she's very prudent with money. So in HER eyes, my cycling hobby is pretty expensive!

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tell her it's the difference between wally mart and brand name purses or shoes.
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Tell her that she's just plain wrong and that you're going to withold sex and spend that time "riding" long hours in the saddle, dressed in lycra, with other men.

She'll get the picture I assure you.
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After maybe talking about your hobby over dinner and explaining to her about some of it she still refuses to understand? My GF understood after just telling her about it as I was getting into it. Your SO seems willfully ignorant; you should sever all relations
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Originally Posted by crydee View Post
After maybe talking about your hobby over dinner and explaining to her about some of it she still refuses to understand? My GF understood after just telling her about it as I was getting into it. Your SO seems willfully ignorant; you should sever all relations
That's a good point. I think you'll come to understand that we all have very understanding wives. They completely understand and accept what we do.

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Originally Posted by mustang1 View Post

Wife says: "You spent sooooo much money on the bike and it keeps breaking!"
Remind her how cheap cycling is as a hobby compared to what other guys do for hobbies. Every time I think cycling is getting expensive, I remember my friends with boats or airplanes. My buddy Greg has spent $110,000 on his airplane in maintenance/upkeep in the last year. I could buy ALOT of spokes for that. I used to have a Porsche and towed it around on a trailer to do different track events (autocross/club racing)....man is cycling cheap compared to that!
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You need to define your budget for the hobby that satisfies both of you. A looong time ago, I decided I could get by on $100/month. Christmas and Birthday for big purchases. Nothing wrong with some frugality -- that whole spend as much as you can afford on "X" mantra around here is ridiculous. If your hobby is cycling, you don't need that much gear turnover. If your hobby is light weight gear, the latest and greatest, or fashion, obviously you need to negotiate a larger budget.
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Originally Posted by Psimet2001 View Post
Tell her that she's just plain wrong and that you're going to withold sex and spend that time "riding" long hours in the saddle, dressed in lycra, with other men.

She'll get the picture I assure you.
And how did that work out for you??
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tell her it's either money spent on the bike or on hookers.
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Originally Posted by waterrockets View Post
You need to define your budget for the hobby that satisfies both of you. A looong time ago, I decided I could get by on $100/month. Christmas and Birthday for big purchases. Nothing wrong with some frugality -- that whole spend as much as you can afford on "X" mantra around here is ridiculous. If your hobby is cycling, you don't need that much gear turnover. If your hobby is light weight gear, the latest and greatest, or fashion, obviously you need to negotiate a larger budget.
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Whenever I get grief about time and money used on cycling or climbing I offer to stop doing both completely and then spend the time watching football and eating the greasiest potato chips I can find. The one time that didn't work I offered to throw in a beer during the game (I don't drink). That solved the issue quickly. For the engineers out there: stress=force/area. In your goal to remove the stress in your life you can do one of two things, decrease the forces on you, or increase your cross sectional area. I'm sure the S.O. will never choose the latter.
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Originally Posted by mustang1 View Post
my cycling hobby is pretty expensive!
It's not just a "hobby" - it's a way to stay in better shape than sitting on the couch. By cycling you've lowered the costs and frequency of doctor visits since you are in better health.
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Not to get too deep, but maybe she doesn't really care about the money and it's all about her jealousy of the time you spend tinkering with, and on, the bike.
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Funny, funny boys.

I am the wife. And the one with the "expensive" cycling habit. But my husband has his stuff, too. It's all about the balance.

And I can assure you all.....witholding sex will get you nowhere. Nor will the comparison "would you rather I'm out hanging out at bars chasing women?"

Doing everything you can to support her in finding her own passion beyond kids/work/home stuff will pay off for you in huge dividends. Trust me.

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Originally Posted by mustang1 View Post
Broke spoke on bike, now fixed. Since I had the wheel off, thought might as well wash/wax/lube the bike. Now I want to install new bar tape and make adjustments to the saddle.

Wife says: "You spent sooooo much money on the bike and it keeps breaking!"

No, it doesn't keep breaking, I'm just tinkering for relaxation. But the funny thing is, it's a bottom of the range Specialized Allez which I got on good deal on £400 instead of £530. My wife thinks this is a mega-expensive bike. I keep explaining it's the lowest good quality bike available, but she keeps comparing it to Walmart bikes claiming you can get a real-good bike for £99.99.

Humph! What's a guy to do!?

Edit:
Thanks Psimet, nickshu and others. I forgot to mention that my wife has NO HOBBIES and doesn't buy expensive purses and shoes (for which I am grateful) - in fact she's very prudent with money. So in HER eyes, my cycling hobby is pretty expensive!
Its cheaper than a BYPASS or DIABETES (I think). You are investing in your health.
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Originally Posted by jccaclimber View Post
Whenever I get grief about time and money used on cycling or climbing I offer to stop doing both completely and then spend the time watching football and eating the greasiest potato chips I can find. The one time that didn't work I offered to throw in a beer during the game (I don't drink). That solved the issue quickly. For the engineers out there: stress=force/area. In your goal to remove the stress in your life you can do one of two things, decrease the forces on you, or increase your cross sectional area. I'm sure the S.O. will never choose the latter.
See that only works until you get married and then have at least one kid. The kid finds out what your yield stress is. After that it's all about mitigating the plastic deformation.
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Originally Posted by Kimbercop View Post
And how did that work out for you??
About as good as anything else does.

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I remind my wife that it was either cycling, or racing Porches, or cigarette boats. Take your pick honey...
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See that only works until you get married and then have at least one kid. The kid finds out what your yield stress is. After that it's all about mitigating the plastic deformation.
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The correct response would be "Youre right..... I should spend more money on beer so that you will look better"
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Originally Posted by Psimet2001 View Post
See that only works until you get married and then have at least one kid. The kid finds out what your yield stress is. After that it's all about mitigating the plastic deformation.
Is that the point at which your hair becomes a plastic (stress whitening) and embrittlement begins everywhere else?
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The correct response would be "Youre right..... I should spend more money on beer so that you will look better"
HEEEEY-O!!

I agree with what Beth said. Helping her find something to fill the hours will probably do wonders for her attitude toward the things you love.
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I remind my wife that it was either cycling, or racing rocking chairs on Porches, or smoking cigarettes while drinking boat loads of beer. Take your pick honey...
Fixed....or at least this is what mine would say...
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See that only works until you get married and then have at least one kid. The kid finds out what your yield stress is. After that it's all about mitigating the plastic deformation.
And then the option is presented to have football in front of the TV as bonding time or bike with the kid. I'm just hoping that biking with the kid is better than biking with the gf (following family history I've got 1-2 decades before this is an issue). Don't get me wrong, biking with the gf is nice, but it's not a substitute for a fast ride and I haven't found the time for both. I am however happy that she rides occasionally.
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