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Old 03-28-12, 01:51 PM
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By the way honey, I sold your bike . . .

My wife got into a little cycling accident about three years ago. I started a thread back then entitled “wife goes down and not in a good way”, or something like that.

Anyway, for a number of reasons, she never got back on her bike. Probably a combination of paranoia and the fact that she never really liked cycling all that much to begin with.

My question is this: should I even tell her?

Chances are that if I never bring it up, she will never know and therefore never care. But if I do tell her, she might be mad in principle, but I know that she has no intention of ever cycling again.
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Old 03-28-12, 01:53 PM
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you shouldn't have done it without asking her first in the first place. But now that you have you should definitely tell her.

People make mistakes, she is your wife, she will forgive you.
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But then she'll know those new wheels weren't a "gift from a friend"...

Ooooh, proceed with CAUTION amigo!
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What did you do with the money? If you haven't spent it yet, maybe buy her something she's wanted and I'm sure she won't be angry and sell your bike when you're not around.
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Not Cool.

What would've been the harm in asking her if she was okay with you trying to sell it? (BEFORE you sold it).


I think your best bet now is to come clean, but treat it as if it were the worst thing you ever did. It will work like this:
you: honey, I did something bad. It's REALLY bad. I can't keep it from you any longer.
her: WTF DID YOU DO?!?!?!!? WHO IS SHE?!?!
you: well.....I.......um........I sold your bike. I'm sorry.
her: Oh. Whew. So what. I quit riding that thing 3 years ago.
both: hugs.

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Give her the money and run to the bar for a few hours
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Actually, I wouldn't tell her. If she ever asks to ride just go to the garage and act surprised her bike is gone and blame it on the neighborhood kids
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I suppose on the leaving the toilet seat up to sleeping with her sister scale, it's bad, but not the worst thing you could have done. I'd say tell her before she finds out. But have a good reason.
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bummer about the crash. was it a bad crash, or minor?

my wife is a total wimp when it comes to pain and I feared the worst when she biffed on a light trail. hit a stump, like the only stump on the whole trail, and did a flying W then went down. she got up and finished the ride and has ridden a lot since then.

however, it did reinforce in her that she's never going to try technical singletrack. that was an easy trail she crashed on and there's a lot worse to be had.

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anyway. I would have told her before selling it. now that you don't have that option.. hmm. I would carry on for a while, then explain later why you sold it if she asks.
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Originally Posted by DropDeadFred
Actually, I wouldn't tell her. If she ever asks to ride just go to the garage and act surprised her bike is gone and blame it on the neighborhood kids
LOL!
I did this sort of thing to my mother when I broke the VCR with a porno tape when I was younger. The VCR ate the tape and got all messed up. I said nothing. Later, my mom went to watch E.T. in the VCR, and of course the VCR ate the tape and spit it out. She was all "Aw, look what I did!!!" And I was all "aaaawwww, mom! I can't believe you just broke our VCR!"
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Originally Posted by GiantDefyGuy
LOL!
I did this sort of thing to my mother when I broke the VCR with a porno tape when I was younger. The VCR ate the tape and got all messed up. I said nothing. Later, my mom went to watch E.T. in the VCR, and of course the VCR ate the tape and spit it out. She was all "Aw, look what I did!!!" And I was all "aaaawwww, mom! I can't believe you just broke our VCR!"
I had an experience that started similarly but went bad when I couldn't get the tape out of the vcr.

Kids have it so easy these days with this internet thing.
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Originally Posted by Nachoman
My question is this: should I even tell her?

Chances are that if I never bring it up, she will never know and therefore never care. But if I do tell her, she might be mad in principle, but I know that she has no intention of ever cycling again.
How would you feel if she sold something of yours because you hadn't used it in 3 years and didn't tell you?

I like GiantDefyGuy's "I did something terrible" approach. That would soften the blow a bit.
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Originally Posted by CbadRider
How would you feel if she sold something of yours because you hadn't used it in 3 years and didn't tell you?.
I would feel terrible! Like when she goes through my underwear drawer every few years and tosses what she believes is worn out underwear. Doesn't she know that I have an underwear collection?
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Originally Posted by Nachoman
My wife got into a little cycling accident about three years ago. I started a thread back then entitled “wife goes down and not in a good way”, or something like that.

Anyway, for a number of reasons, she never got back on her bike. Probably a combination of paranoia and the fact that she never really liked cycling all that much to begin with.

My question is this: should I even tell her?

Chances are that if I never bring it up, she will never know and therefore never care. But if I do tell her, she might be mad in principle, but I know that she has no intention of ever cycling again.
Well she hadn't used it in three years.......hmmmm.........that would be about like me selling our stove / oven. Not sure how my wife would take that or how long it would take her to notice.
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Just wait till a very nice moment to "kinda" drop it in a conversation.

Or better yet, buy her something real nice with the money, even if you have to add some of your own cash to the proceeds.

It is important to point out that you did "screw up" selling what was not yours, so whichever way you look at it, you need to "suck-up" and make things right.
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Here in lies the answer to your question.

WHY did you not tell her beforehand? The first reason that popped in your mind probably will show what will likely happen...
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don't know your wife obviously, but personally I would be pretty pissed. She might see something in the Skinny-Like-a-Model magazine at the dentist one day and go out to find her bike and ... !!

It also guarantees she will never ever ride again. It's one thing if there's a bike just right there she can hop on. It's quite another when to ride again you have to take a rather pricey shopping trip.

But again, I don't know you wife; she might take it all in stride.
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jokes aside, this one is way bigger than underwear. (my wife sorts my old clothes, then I have a chance to yay/nay what goes to goodwill.)

this is more like your wife selling a weightbench or golf clubs you don't use.
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It's better to ask for forgiveness than permission?

Not sure if that applies in case. Mine would be mad for sure.

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I wouldn't tell her.

If she finds out, you should tell her it's for her own good, because she crashed the thing and hurt herself, so obviously the bike is cursed.

And be ready to buy her a new bike in case she wants to get back into riding.
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Yeah, give her the money and tell her all about it. Idiots.

You may as well show her where you hide your porn collection and kick your own self in the sack while your at it.

Oh, and when a song comes on the radio that used to be "your song" with another girl, make sure you blab about that too. Morons.
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Yeah, give her the money and tell her all about it. Idiots.

You may as well show her where you hide your porn collection and kick your own self in the sack while your at it.

Oh, and when a song comes on the radio that used to be "your song" with another girl, make sure you blab about that too. Morons.
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Ahh the agony! How long do you think you can keep that secret from her?
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