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Old 07-02-10, 07:56 PM
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A heart broken tour

Today I lost my Grandmother and my best friend. We had a truly beautiful and unique relationship based on deep unconditional love for one another.

After her funeral I am considering going on my first tour to try and come to terms with this heart breaking loss.
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Old 07-02-10, 08:10 PM
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Sorry for your loss.
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Old 07-02-10, 08:16 PM
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There's nothing worse than a loss in the family. Last year, we had someone posting about losing a close friend and was taking a tour because of it. I forgot who it was but the person was young, less than 50 years old. Regardless, you have my condolences.
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Old 07-02-10, 09:10 PM
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Sad day.

I haven't found that tours are all that great for getting to the bottom of things. Touring is really cool, therefore, like skydiving, there isn't a lot of time to get in touch with your feelings.
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Old 07-02-10, 10:54 PM
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I lost my dad a little over a year ago and it still hurts like hell.So I know how you feel.I think going on a tour would be good my self will let you get your thoughts back in order.Biking has a way to help us I think.
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Sorry for your loss. A good bike ride (particularly solo) often helps me to process feelings.
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Old 07-03-10, 11:23 AM
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Sorry for the loss of your beloved grandmother. There is certainly time for reflection on a tour.
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Old 07-04-10, 01:46 PM
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yes good idea!
a bike tour creates the perfect conditions for meditation,reflection,processing and a way to connect with body and emotions. have fun!
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Get on your bike and ride. What better way to spend time in reflection upon the life of your best friend? Have a great ride!
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Condolences. Something to be said for abundant exercise, food and sleep to get through rough patches.
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Originally Posted by twodeadpoets View Post
Sorry for your loss. A good bike ride (particularly solo) often helps me to process feelings.
+1 Particularly on the solo part. Fewer distractions, more time for thought.

My deepest condolences on your loss.
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Originally Posted by k9power View Post
Today I lost my Grandmother and my best friend. We had a truly beautiful and unique relationship based on deep unconditional love for one another.

After her funeral I am considering going on my first tour to try and come to terms with this heart breaking loss.
Dear K9 -

You were fortunate to have had such a wonderful relationship with your grandmother.
My grandmother was also extremely close to me - in an otherwise crazy family.

Take an easy tour -
One in which you are not fighting the elements or trying to do killer mileage.
Just stop when you want to and listen to her voice while you are riding and when you pause.

Best - J
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Originally Posted by jamawani View Post
Take an easy tour -
One in which you are not fighting the elements or trying to do killer mileage.
Just stop when you want to and listen to her voice while you are riding and when you pause.

Best - J
Sounds like good advice to me...

Sorry for your loss

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Originally Posted by jamawani View Post
Dear K9 -

You were fortunate to have had such a wonderful relationship with your grandmother.
My grandmother was also extremely close to me - in an otherwise crazy family.

Take an easy tour -
One in which you are not fighting the elements or trying to do killer mileage.
Just stop when you want to and listen to her voice while you are riding and when you pause.

Best - J
ditto, it really doesn't matter if you take the trip or not. Either way it'll come and go in waves. Hang in there.
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I'm sorry for your loss. A tour seems like a very appropriate way to honor your memories.
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Old 07-10-10, 10:07 AM
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Sorry for your loss. I know how it feels. I lost my Dad last November due to cancer. And my brother back in May 2002. I've lost a lot of family and friends. I can't wait to tour. I need to get away.
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