Cat's Call: Pedal away from riding relationship
Tuesday, December 08, 2009
By Catherine Specter

DEAR CAT: My wife and I are avid bicyclists and we love riding together, but she can't keep up with me even when I slow down for her. I gave her an expensive bicycle built for two and she appreciated it but thought we'd look silly riding it. So I got her an alternate gift, but unbeknownst to her, I kept the tandem. A few weeks later a single neighbor friend asked me about the bike (she saw me unloading it from my truck the day I bought it), I told her the story and she asked to ride the bike with me. So we've been riding around the neighborhood. Unfortunately a nosy neighbor saw us and told my wife. My wife confronted me and, after I explained it all, she said it would be OK. I bought a new seat and handlebars for my neighbor friend (the ones that came with the bike were uncomfortable) and when my wife saw them on our credit card bill she demanded I sell the bike. I got our friend to reimburse me, but my wife still insists that I sell the bike. The trouble is I very much enjoy riding the bike with our neighbor friend. I think my wife is being unreasonable. What should I do? -- SECRET RIDER

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DEAR SECRET: Did you buy the seat and handlebars at the idiot store? For your sake I hope they have a good return policy. A few things to consider ... 1.) Hiding your burgeoning friendship is just plain wrong -- and sketchy. 2.) Why did you secretly keep the bike (and start riding it with another woman) without telling your wife? 3. ) The "nosy" neighbor who ratted on you is no nosier than a single female neighbor who asks to ride a tandem bike with another woman's husband. You know full well your wife isn't unreasonable. What should you do?

Cat's Call: Sell the bike, end the friendship and hope your wife forgives you.

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