I found a product that seems to have solved the problem of chamois butter and bag balm staying cycling short and/or migrating to other cycling clothes in the wash: I purchased a concentrated laundry product that Massage SPA's used to get massage oils out of linens. I add it to the warm water in the washer, let cycling clothes soak for 10 min and use the longest wash cycle. I also only wash cycling clothes in these loads.
Product is: TheraPro Clean Sheets - a Scrip Company 800-320-7010
(4 oz for a large load) I get the 1 gal. container
hope that helps