lay out your cooking gear and remove the largest items that are not essential to cooking. The problem I see is that you start with the idea that X,Y, Z are necessary to do something and they really aren't. When I started touring I started with a complete cooking set but realized I was eating all the time while riding and preparing a camp meal that was a picnic of uncooked foods satisfied my needs for "cooking".

Looking at your list above I could see that lots of water would be needed for cleaning every pot and utensil. Cut down on that and you cut down on a lot. You don't need two pots, cutting board, fork, bowl to cook. My $.02 is to try one small pot, one non-collapsible cup to fit in it, one large spoon, stove and bandana. Your cup is your plate and bowl. The pot is your bowl. The bandana is the table.

What GregR says above is worth repeating, a one pot meal can be very satisfying with finger foods on the bandana.