MSR makes nice cooksets. I've sold their stuff for years, and I think it's some of the best you can get your hands on. I'm partial to steel as well, I think you should go with it. A small fry pan, a 1.5 liter pot or a 2 liter pot will get you through hell and back. I like bringing silverware from home, and my steel single-wall mug can be used to boil water for tea or coffee.

You can use those simple things for a mind-bending variety of things. Get a lid for the pot and use it as tupperware, or to store food and strap on the outside of your pannier. You can eat out of the pan while cooking a second course in the pot, or even use the pot lid as a plate alone with the pan when cooking for two. I like going simple on my mess kit.