Originally Posted by
yarb
But the point is self-forgiveness. We can forgive ourselves for decisions that are irrational, and we can feel guilty about decisions that are rational. We can't help our feelings; electrik's point is sound.
I thought the point was not getting killed, but apparently I wasn't reading between the lines.
Seriously, the OP is talking about being around for his family's future. That has not one rip to do with "self-forgiveness." If safety is the priority and it is safer to drive, that's the right move. If safety is the priority and it's safer to ride, that's the right move. Feeling guilty isn't the point; if the idea at the genesis of the decision is to be safer, and the safer option involves feeling guilty, then feeling guilty for irrational reasons is something to address and correct, not a reason to take the less rational route.