Originally Posted by
tenzing211
Let me clarify things. We do not own a tandem, just road bikes. I tend to ride more than her, so our abilities are not the same. The Sunday morning group ride is a 25-40mile excursion at about 17-19mph. She struggles to keep up, but I am content to stay at her pace. She feels I am taunting her at times, or else is not satisfied with the route we choose, the road conditions, the weather, the hills, etc. There are some in the group who will hammer, but for the most part it is a casual group ride.
Cycling can and should be a lifelong activity for all. I would like to ride with my spouse, but feel I'm "getting in trouble" when I do. Its almost to the point of just riding separately. Is this a metaphor for other bad things?
If you end up repeatedly getting dropped, you should re-evaluate your participation in this group ride. Perhaps she feels you are dragging her along to an event where she is repeatedly humiliated. If you get along okay when it is just the two of you, why not just do that and forget the group?