Hi there! Welcome to the forums!

I have this saddle and found it helped tremendously because of the cutouts designed for women parts:

http://store.trekbikes.com/shopping/...551&picindex=1

It also would probably help to get your bike properly fitted and try out different saddles. For the hands being numb, that can be from a number of reasons. One, bike not fit correctly. Ex. Stretching and placing to much pressure on your hands, the angle of your wrists being bent. You can also be holding on to tightly. Have you tried wearing gloves yet?

I still get numb hands, but find if I change positions and take my hands off one at a time and shake them around a bit, it's not so bad. You can find a lot of information here using the search function.

Glad you started riding! Enjoy