Well, you do your research and daydreaming. Then you find just what you want, and it was none of the above, but you like what you got.
I am on a forum often used for relationship advice. Lots of advice offered, some serious, some not, and much contradiction. Maybe the discussion helps the OP make his own decision, and it's completely different from anything that's offered. So long as it doesn't hurt, it might help.
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Some people are like a Slinky ... not really good for anything, but you still can't help but smile when you shove them down the stairs.