Originally Posted by
cranky old dude
You have a very strong bond with your daughter and you both enjoy cycling and skiing together along with svereal other interests. Will she feel at all slighted if you choose a Vermont Tour over an assault on WF that helps support her ski racing? Will you feel at all guilty choosing the tour over the race?
The answers to those two questions should guide you in your decision.
I generally agree with the sentiment, but I would have to place my threshold somewhere beyond "at all" on the being slighted or feeling guilty fronts. Picking that point can be tricky, but can be done.
I would definitely not want to really hurt a loved one's feelings about something really important to them, but it can actually be good to establish that your wants and needs carry some weight. Loving your kids does not require that you completely spoil them rotten and let them walk all over you. That is their grandparents' job.
