Originally Posted by BluesDawg

I generally agree with the sentiment, but I would have to place my threshold somewhere beyond "at all" on the being slighted or feeling guilty fronts. Picking that point can be tricky, but can be done.

I would definitely not want to really hurt a loved one's feelings about something really important to them, but it can actually be good to establish that your wants and needs carry some weight. Loving your kids does not require that you completely spoil them rotten and let them walk all over you. That is their grandparents' job.