Yes, I have had the same quick responses for Velocity, Matt to be specific. That was about 3 years ago!
I'm sort of the other side with he LBS though. I would have never built a Dyad for a rider of your weight. I just don't think a 22 mm rim is as good as the 30mm of a Deep V. Also, having to deal with the rims after every ride is also a sign of a poor build. There's a reason I started building m own wheels.

I'm almost tempted to advise you to look for a wheel builder and skip on the shop. You never should have had to go through these problems in the first place.
The Chukker looks super, I've seen some and think of building one just cause they look cool. Good luck with the wheel. A wheel of this size should be a super duper wheel.