Which one you get is up to you. I like road and touring bikes, myself. The "upright" position with flat bars hurts my hands, because the weight always seems to fall in the same place on your hands. Drop bars offer a lot more hand positions, and allow you to use extra-cushy foam tape.
I've known more people that have had problems with hybrid bike rims, than with modern road or touring bike rims. Usually, because people get the lower-end models. One of the places that the manufacturer saves money on the lower-end bikes is the rims. Some of those cheap rims self destruct with regular riding.
I'm about 250#, and prefer a road bike with a 25c tire in the front, a 28c in the rear. The extra width on the rear helps with potholes and railroad tracks. On my commuter road bike, that I use to carry heavy stuff, I go with a beefier back rim (Velocity Deep V).