I heartily recommend the Dragonfly stove. A lot of people say it's too heavy, but it's awesome.
For cookware, I spent $3 at Dollar General on a large plastic cooking spoon, a spatchula and a 2-tine cooking fork, then went with an old aluminum Boy Scout cookset without the plastic cup, and one 2L aluminum pot with lid. With this setup, I can cook anything from eggs to steak and from spaghetti to boiling water for coffee/grits/oatmeal. A few people I've seen on my current trip (currently on the Natchez Trace Parkway), tell me I don't need the big utensils; to each his/her own. The weight of it all is well within reason and the stove fits within the 2L cookpot while the BSA cookset is designed to be stackable.