Darth

Firstly, welcome to the 50+ forum. Although I am now over 50, i came here before I was 50 because some of the issues that I was interested in are best discussed with a more mature group. IMHO 50+ is an attitude, not a chronological issue.

Second, I understand where you are coming from. My father is not in great health, is overweight, and could be doing more to help himself out, but if he were doing that, he wouldn't be my dad. Love your father for who he is, spend time with him while you can, not trying to change him, but enjoying those parts of him that make you fear losing him. Once he is gone, and God willing, he will go before you, keep him alive by reliving those times that you have spent with him.

I don't know if you, like me have geographic challenges (my dad lives 2000 miles away), but just try to make sure that your dad knows that you love him.