Originally Posted by
urbanknight
Wow, so many replies, many of showing a light at the end of the tunnel. It sounds as if things will be a little easier around 3-12 months. He's 3.5 (justationally 2). He likes the swing, but only when he's not gassy. That's the main problem, and the bouncing is the only thing that gets those not-so-tiny farts out. I expected to ride LESS, but not ZERO. Maybe I can ride the trainer with him on one thigh (I'm only half joking here).
OK, I actually have most of that, except only 1 kid and I haven't broken anything. He was born via emergency c-section (preeclampsia). I feed the baby while she pumps. It's only fair.
I will say that the short moments where he is happy and smiling really big back at me are golden (even better than my best ride). Even though the 19 days in NICU had great medical care and gave me time to ride in between hospital visits, I'd rather bounce him until my leg falls off than let him spend another day there.
Okay, so I can relate. It does get easier as they get stronger and older. My twins were in the NICU as well. One mistake so many new parents make is that they think things need to shared 50/50. That just results in two people with no time for themselves or even basic needs. At times it is actually better if it is 100/0 and 0/100 than 50/50 all the time. Give her time to her self to recharge, sleep, vegge out on the couch, exercise, whatever and she will be more likely to be able the same for you.