My 25-35 mile r/t commute was not viable wearing my work clothes so it was always cycling shorts/jersey etc. Took work clothes rolled up in a pannier and did a ladies room sink shampoo then a hobo cleanup in the handicap stall using a small bucket, soap, and washrags. Kept a travel towel and cleanup kit at work. My hair is short and on the rare occasion I had makeup on, I kept lipstick/eye makeup at my desk. I arrived to work early to have time to be presentable and get oatmeal/coffee before others showed up.

Embrace no-iron clothes. I kept 2 pair of shoes, basic cardigan sweaters, belts at work so I had fewer bulky things to cart back and forth.

About "glowing" - dried salty sweat with dead bugs and road grit/splat embedded feel like getting rubbed by sandpaper. Getting cleaned up post-ride is very mood-enhancing. Sit down somewhere cool and drink water until you quit sweating before you start cleanup.