The video game seems to have been a problem in the past. Why else is your wife so concerned about it? Maybe she knows that it has led you to be unmotivated in the past? I dunno. Based on your posts, i can see your OCD. RELAX man. Take a day off every now and then. Generally when your legs feel like they are dead, that would be a good time. Then ride the next day.
I can relate, as i have similar characteristics. I HATE not getting to ride for a day. As a matter of fact, i don't recall my last day off. I think it was the day after my first century a few weeks ago. I am so obsessed with riding, that i try and make sure i don't completely kill my legs, so i have some fuel for the next day.
There have been several days that i planned to take off, yet ended up riding anyway. Oh well, I don't know what to tell ya. Good Luck.