So, before the wife packed off for Poland you got such a thorough going over that you couldn't look at another woman without thinking of the weight she offloaded on you. The full brunt of this came to bear over a couple hours of unencumbered living with friends who would have torn you to pieces for dragging them into your emotional disparities. Leading to you emoting your ability to shake off her harsh words in an attempt at self affirmation.

Such goes the eternal struggle not to be "that guy."