I don't go on club rides any more. Just didn't fit in with any of the local cliques - the social riders who stop "everywhere" for a something (coffee, beer, pics, whatever), the wannabe TdFers, the group-who's-ridden-together-since-God-created-the-Universe, etc. There's a group who pacelines like a well-oiled machine but blows thru intersections/lights and I'm not going there safety-wise. Shrug.

So I ride solo. IF someone decides to ride with me, at my pace, where I want to go, when I want to go, cool. If not, ah well.

stepfam, I feel for you tho - riding with people you WANT to ride with and then feeling they've ignored your needs has to suck to an extent. (I have a similar issue when playing golf with my 80-year-old father. It's not the same as when we played together 20 years ago. Our expectations (playing pace, score, riding/walking) have changed and it's no longer fun for either of us.)