Three thoughts:
1) cheap spokes break easily, due to poor materials and poor build quality. MOST bikes under $750 or so come with cheap spokes.
2) go to a shop and pick out a hub and rim, and have the shop build the wheels for you with whatever typical brand of spokes they use, the plain DT Swiss ones are fine
3) get heavy-duty MTB hubs, even if this is a road or hybrid bike you don't ride off-road. The bearings is the first part that fails from high loads--not the spokes--and you can get off-road hubs with bigger bearings than road hubs. Figure on spending ~$200 or so just for good hubs, which is not cheap, but they will last forever. I would recommend Shimano XTR's for a bit more, $250 or so. Cheap hubs are NOT gonna hold up.

If the bike shop hand-builds the wheels and you are a typical person (not a bodybuilder or Olympic-level athlete) and you are riding on-road, you should basically NEVER need to tighten spokes.