OK, You may be better suited for a mountain bike. Short wheel base, 17", extra long seat post, solid
fork with threadless and adjustable riser, and hybrid bars.

Or something like this. ??

http://www.trekbikes.com/us/en/bikes...avigator_2_0/#

You can set the preload high and the forks would be almost solid.

Something else to keep in mind, mens bikes have a much better resale value later.
I know, it's not fair, but that is the way it is.