Clipless systems are best for sport riding and essential for racing but are not ideal for everyday use. If you fit clipess pedals then you can only use clipless shoes. With toe clips you can use any shoe.
The people who hate toe clips are generally trying to use them in the style of old-time racers, for maximum efficiency. If you use them in commuter style they are much easier. This means:
Keep the straps lose. Use stiff (pref leather) straps
Avoid shoes with knobbles which catch.
You lose a bit of efficiency compared to a racing setup, but you gain a whole lot compared to a plain platform.

You can practice fitting one at a time and you can leave out the straps to start with.