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One of the things you have gotten a hold on is perseverance —*that is pretty clear.
And with help from your inspiration, I'll get out there and ride today, in spite of the parts that still hurt.


After perseverance, patience and understanding are two more things to learn that go with perseverance. ... and with them, maybe, a different set of expectations about women can come in real useful.

Man, at your age, love is like an alternate universe of intense feelings that takes over your world. Also, at age 25, everything is magnified 10x.

I don;t know anything about your relationship, so I can only speak from past relationships I've had, where it started out as one set of friendship, hope and expectations, and wound up being a simple friendship. it can be friendship, if there's a friendship there, and if you can just back the expectations off. Sure you can. Even if the relationship doesn't eventually work out the way you might hope, it's still may be worth nurturing that friendship.
You are learning about caring, and how it's a two way street.

It's a privilege to be in a position to fall in love, no matter what, but it also can be very bitter sweet sometimes and doesn't always work out. But with patience and being a friend to her, it may be more rewarding in other ways, or ways you didn't expect, in the future.

I have gfs that I was initially attracted too, that were never lovers, but are still good friends.

Other times I regret I lost a good gf, because I did not appreciate the friendship enough at the time, and abandoned it, maybe because I was more interested in other things. Maybe it was just the way it was meant to be; but some of them I miss, and think would have liked to have just remained friends with.

I'd recommend patience and adjusting expectations, and maybe you'll be more content down the road.

Sounds like you have a friend, who is also a girl. But it's about more than "getting" girls. You can "get" girls and still be left empty in side if all you wanted was to "get".

That's one of those "guy things" we have to move on from, and mature out of. Takes time. But now you seem to kind of know. When you move from apathy and not caring, to caring, you are maybe on the right path.

Again, this sounds good for your soul to have felt that way.

Either way, you lost a lot of weight which is pretty impressive.

Sounds like you have some health and endurance. That's the No. 1 thing. That's something to be thankful for, but please don't dehydrate and screw your kidneys over.

Mine ain't so great, anymore. I can't even imagine riding a single day in temps over 89F.

There's your perseverance —*that's another great quality to have to be successful down the road. You might think you don't have much, but perseverance is an important part of the foundation that others lack.

I'm sure there are a some of us here that wrestle with thoughts that our predicaments sometimes offer little hope. But we keep on living in the day and moving forward as best we can. (If it gets too dark in there call one of the crisis hotlines in your area, and there'll be people who want to help you get through.)

LOL Always feels that way for the first several miles, and in your Texas heat, I have no idea how you do it.


Why is that?


Sounds good, too.


Been damaged/injured for 9 months. It has been tough getting through 10 months, with no riding as I heal. I have 48 yr old friends who are fit as top Marines, who have had brain and testicle surgeries and get sidelined too. They only wish they could run or ride, or exercise.


I think a lot of folk are rooting for you. So tell us about some rides, and I hope your friendship with the gf stays on track.