I'll say ditto to the people who recommend setting the handlebars at seat height - this seems to be the compromise position many utility riders like commuters and tourers seem to end up with, although of course individuals may vary somewhat in their preference. If you have drop bars with the tops set at seat height, you still have the option of going down into the drops if there's a headwind or you are in a real hurry.

Paradoxically, it sometimes helps to get more comfortable with a forward leaning position if you push your seat back a bit - the rails on the bottom of the seat allow for some adjustment. That might make it seem like you will have to reach farther forward or lean more on your wrists, but it also shifts your centre of gravity back and puts more of your body weight over your legs, sort of like a speedswimmer poised to dive, with his butt sticking back.