+1 on Co-Motion Cycles.
My wife's bike is a custom built Co-Motion Nor'west Tour. She has the opposite problem, being short and hard to fit. Small frames, like large frames, come with many challenges. The folks at Co-Motion are very knowledgeable, and worked with us to get what she wanted.
It may not hurt to call or e-mail them, and describe your specifications. It may not be possible to attain all of your desires, but they might have a good idea, even before they did the measurements what is possible.
We live about 45 minutes from their shop,and we had a lot of interaction with them while the frame was being built. Their work is excellent, and they really want you to be happy with the bike.
Is my wife happy? She'd would probably give me up before she'd part with that bike!