I wonder where you are finding these "most orthopedic surgeons"? All of my orthopedically or neurologically trained medical providers endorse free weights as heavy as I wish. At the same time they reinforce what I know and practice about progressive training.

Sorry you hurt yourself. I hope you heal quickly and you return to weight lifting with a new sense of purpose and caution.

I should add that if a person hasn't done free weights in a long time it is well worth the effort to get a refresher course from a proffessional teacher. Form is almost everything in free weights. Having someone who is well qualified critique your form will prevent a lot of pain while speeding the benefits.