I have slowly creeped up from 200 to 235 over the past 10 years, and have been riding 32h wheels the whole time, except when I had the Allez that had a 28h radial laced front wheel. Even with the radial laced wheel, once they were properly tensioned, and trued, I never had an issue with them again. Including mountain biking, hopping curbs, hitting small jumps (2' of air or so) etc. Even when I was younger (180-200lbs) and had a rigid bike with cheap wheels on it, I could hop curbs, hit jumps, beat the bike up pretty good.

Anyone that has mechanical ability should just get a truing stand, I have a $40 stand, and a Park tensiometer and some decent nipple wrenches. Tension and true your wheels when they are new, de-stress them and re-true. I do not believe, for one second, that anyone under 300lbs needs a huge profile V rim, IF the wheel is properly built in the first place. Get a good quality rim, build it right with DB spokes, and go with 32h 3x (36h if you really want) and use bigger tires. My Allez had 23c tires at 120psi, wheels stayed true of course I was only 225 then...