Others have mentioned some of this but here is what I did to make sure my wife is comfortable. She has never told me she doesn't want me to do it but she has said she worries. I'm cool with that concern and actually appreciate it but anyways....
- As safe of route as I can reasonably take, and have that route available to her. For me it is saved as a google map on an account we share. I'll say "I'm taking the blah blah route this time".
- Safety stuff like lights, reflective items, etc.
- I turn on Google Latitude, which allows her to see where I am in "sort of" real time. I tell her that she can then tell the insurance guy where to find my body. No body, no insurance.
I do other things but the above allows her to not worry as much.
In the end if it is something you REALLY want to do and she is upset about it, you may have to just do it anyway. Husband and wife don't always have to agree on things.
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