Originally Posted by biknbrian

Of course by yelling you probably help force her into a self defensive state of mind. Not only would she have to be willing to be honest about her mistake, but now she has to do it while someone is attacking her.

There are certainly more effective ways to respond. A shrug that says, "Aw man I'm a little bit dissapointed," can put even more pressure on her to admit to her self that she screwed up. At the same time it makes it harder for her to simply blame the whole thing on a guy who seems like a nice, forgiving fellow.