When I was looking for a saddle I talked to the LBS about loaners. Bontrager and Specialized both do refunds. Based on recommendation and budget constraints I tried an inform affinity R. Felt better than the stock saddle, but started rubbing. That told me the width (148) was too much. Too much padding as well which had me hunting positions. I had a fit done on that saddle to make sure that wasn't an issue. I went back knowing not so much what would work, but what didn't. That information helped me a lot. I knew it had to be more narrow and stiffer. Other than those things, no real issues. Returned the saddle, paid an extra 10 bucks and got a specialized romin. Had a fit done on that and it was immediately better. Just did my first 50 a few weeks ago with absolutely no pain or numbness.

The selection process may appear to be BS, but starting me on the wrong saddle just made it easier to zero in on the right. In other words, you've got to start somewhere. Be patient and really give the saddles some time. I didn't notice the Bontrager rubbing until after the 1.5 hour mark.