You could also try some different bars, maybe shorter reach bars? Different bars also have different amounts of variation of where you can comfortably position the brake levers/hoods -- which can help as most people ride the majority of the time on the hoods. I prefer shorter reach compact bars.

I am short but like OP have long legs and shorter torso. However, I have very good flexibility (and probably longish arms for my height) and have no problem on fairly long top tube frames even with a slammed setup. But... everybody's different. Maybe give it some time to get used to the more aggressive position?