not a good question to ask. To start with, you should only be competing with yourself. Even the slightest head/tail winds and slightest of grades that you probably never noticed as hills before will slow you down or speed you up. Work on your cadence, and about 75% through your ride work on intervals, meaning push yourself to the limit, then slow down.. repeat. This will build endurance and speed faster than simply putting in miles. Enjoy yourself, and compare yourself to you only. Everyone is different and some people are really high energy types that take everything to the extreme, others have more relaxed personalities. No wrong way to ride if you are not in pain and haven't crashed.

I find sidewinds to be more annoying than headwinds, btw. I do have the option of driving straight south for literally ever though and turn around, on days like today with strong southerly winds, it makes for a great ride back